Do you let your close family (mom/grandmother/sister) take your child(ren) shopping?

I'm very close with my family, and I do trust them. But everytime I let someone take my 2.5yo shopping I just get this overwhelming anxiety... I just keep imagining someone taking my daughter and I can't get it out of my head... It takes over my whole brain and I can't do anything, I end up having to doom scroll or something to take my mind off it so I can function... I don't know if this is normal or not

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My son is 4.5, and I still don’t like my own husband taking him out without me lol

Those thoughts are normal. We fear things and have protective instincts. Anyone that I allow to take my kids has my full trust and I know they’d protect them to the full extent. (Only my husband of course, my parents and sister, literally no one else).

No one ever takes my daughter anywhere without me and I can’t imagine how that would even work lol 😂
the car seat is a big thing for me, I wouldn’t trust anyone else to make sure she’s fitted and strapped in correctly and straps tightened enough etc

My son is 4.5 and my daughter is almost 1. My mother-in-law, sister-in-law, and my husband are the only people allowed to take my son anywhere without me, has been like that since he was 1. My daughter is allowed to stay the night but I don't like people taking her to the store without me. Its honestly different for everyone, and whatever your preference is, it's okay.

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