Evil MIL 😞

I just need to vent because it’s upsetting me so much.
I have a 3 year old daughter who is SO obsessed with her grandad, they are two best friends and it’s literally so lovely to see.
However my MIL is insanely jealous of this. She always has a go at grandad for “being too soft” and playful with her.. we don’t see any issue as her parents but I know my MIL does.
My daughter was really poorly last weekend so on Monday, grandad popped by on his way home from work to check up on her. This caused a huge argument because my MIL didn’t want him too.
Then last night we went round for dinner and she forgot her password to something and the hint was “grandchild” - so she made a comment about the other 2 grandchildren and just blanked my daughter .. i was like .. she’s your grandchild too?
Am I just being overly sensitive?
I know my daughter isn’t the favourite, she never has been but it’s starting to get to a point where you can tell that my MIL just doesn’t like her at all and doesn’t like the fact she’s closer to her granddad

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That sounds like an awful situation 😣 at least your daughter has the love of her grandfather. Hopefully he takes no mind to his wife

I am so sorry, you are going through this; there is a saying that it is the person that you loves, you love their child. What I meant is that your MIL might not like you in particular, so she transfer this to your child.
My maternal grandmother does not like me a bit, when I was younger, she buys things for other grandchildren excluding me. She likes my older siblings. The issue is that she does not like my dad and I look just like my dad 😊.
Just saying this as this might help you, I don’t have any advise or tips just thought I should share this with you.
I am an adult now and my maternal grandmother is late(God rest her soul).
Your child might have to grow to know this and deal with it. She might just know too as she gets older. I hope everything goes well for you and your child.

I’d get hubby to have a direct conversion with her, essentially telling her to grow up. Toddlers and children have favourites, it’s natural!

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