Question about irrationality

Hello, so my husband had a long stressful day at work. I’m a stay at home mom to our 1 yr old while being 38.5 weeks pregnant. So I do all the house work, cooking, cleaning, and child rearing. He comes home around 530and we go to the grocery store and get back home around 7. He helps me to clean up the mess the baby made and he gave her a bath while I cleaned the kitchen up from dinner and to shut it down for the night. He falls asleep from 8-1130 and comes and sits next to me on the couch. He the. States that he is going to take a shower literally five mins after he wakes up. And I did have a look of irritation bc I had the baby all day with no break. So, he asks why I look like that and i didn’t state what was actually wrong with me and said hey just don’t use all the hot water bc I shower everyday whereas he likes to take days to shower(gross) which today he just now told me he does that to save on the water bill. Never told me that before. But I shower everyday to get the bleach and household chemicals off me from cleaning throughout the day and bc being pregnant I feel yucky if I don’t. So he gets and an attitude stating that I said that to him like he showers everyday and I merely explained I only needed a couple mins to clean myself from the long day. So he ultimately decides he is not going to shower at all . When I proceeded to talk to him about it he stated that he didn’t care and i shouldn’t have made that face at him. Can someone please tell me exactly what it is I did wrong?

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Potty training a boy

I’ve started potty training he’s peed multiple times and pooped once. And seems to know when I put him on the potty he should pee because he tries to every time. But the issue I’m having is him knowing when he has to and letting me know. Sometimes he will with poop but it’s usually while he’s actually popping. I don’t know what to do to get him to realize he has to go. Appreciate any advice or tips!😊

Is he in the wrong here or am I?

My partner of 4 years is not the father of my 3 children I have to my ex husband, my ex and I had a bad break up, things took a sudden nasty turn after a long rime together, dv, courts injunction but things u turned and he has a timetable with the kids now. He sees them every other weekend for just the day and some half terms but not too much really. He pays maintenance and he has for 4 years even when he couldnt see them. He called n said his changing jobs and he needs to pay 250 less this month and then for the next few weeks he will pay weekly instead of monthly and add some extra on so the 250 less will get paid back. My partner said if he cant pay he cant have them.. if he cant afford to pay this week properly he cant afford to havr the kids next week in half term. He asked for a Monday til friday with them, he wants to take them the cinema and trampoline park and to see family. I said child maintenance and his quality time with the kids are two seperate things just as what happened between me and him is seperate to how he is a father am I wrong ? Is he wrong ? What would you do ?

How would you feel towards them???

If you had been arranging a surprise party for over a year, meaning these people had a year in advance to plan time off or literally anything else, only for them to cancel one by one the same day you confirmed they’re available, how would you feel towards them?! Two are saying they used the time off for various family members emergencies. One doesnt know if they can, because heaven forbid they actually write one weekend off for a friend of a lifetime, over his girlfriend of three years. Another is apparently changing jobs and can’t take time off(yeah because you definitely cant ask when starting a job for time off🙄(I’ve personally done this and never had an issue)). And his very best friend? Apparently having heart issues out of no where at 28 years old, and what would you know, the only day they can do his echo is literally his best friends birthday… *(Keep in mind, we have a child who has had OHS ourselves. We aren’t strangers to heart issues). Would you want to find out you possibly have a heart issue on your best friends bday out of any day of the year? Not only that but its a milestone. He turns 30. Most of them do this year too. It was supposed to be one last weekend hurrah but instead they all decided to flake at literally the last possible minute. I genuinely hate these guys. Ive known them since HS. I figured they would at least show up. Nope. I tried. I did. I tried… Because of them all the plans are ruined.

Don’t know what to do. CPS

What do you do when you get a call at work saying your husband was arrested and your kids are being taken away from you.
House is empty. No laughing no crying. Don’t even remember the laugh or the coos from your baby before leaving to go work at 10. All because my step daughter said that she got hit by daddy with a baseball bat while sleeping. And my son who is 2 fell down a flight of stairs in a walker while I was away at work. Police, homeless shelter managers and my sister in law and mother in law came thank god I called them.

Everything is finalized till next week Wednesday. What do you do?

I can only hope and pray and go to work and pray my babies get back to me…

Partner/Husband Support

So many women seem to have the same problem of their partner thinking being a sahm means they do not contribute to the home or kids. So many women, even the ones who work, seem to be carrying the load of running the family with men who although supportive have to be given instructions on what they are to do. It’s quite interesting.
Do your partners do pretty well with helping? Are any of you in a relationship where now u feel u want to end things because you see your partner has a unrealistic expectation of rearing children and maintaining a home? Is it how you thought things would go? Did you and partner overcome this challenge?

development

my LB is two and i feel an immense guilt because i feel like im delaying him. i compare him to other kids his age who are in nursery i know and theyre so much better with talking etc. i try so hard to do like a mock nursery environment at home but i just feel like im holding him back, does anyone else feel like this?