How would you feel towards them???

If you had been arranging a surprise party for over a year, meaning these people had a year in advance to plan time off or literally anything else, only for them to cancel one by one the same day you confirmed they’re available, how would you feel towards them?! Two are saying they used the time off for various family members emergencies. One doesnt know if they can, because heaven forbid they actually write one weekend off for a friend of a lifetime, over his girlfriend of three years. Another is apparently changing jobs and can’t take time off(yeah because you definitely cant ask when starting a job for time off🙄(I’ve personally done this and never had an issue)). And his very best friend? Apparently having heart issues out of no where at 28 years old, and what would you know, the only day they can do his echo is literally his best friends birthday… *(Keep in mind, we have a child who has had OHS ourselves. We aren’t strangers to heart issues). Would you want to find out you possibly have a heart issue on your best friends bday out of any day of the year? Not only that but its a milestone. He turns 30. Most of them do this year too. It was supposed to be one last weekend hurrah but instead they all decided to flake at literally the last possible minute. I genuinely hate these guys. Ive known them since HS. I figured they would at least show up. Nope. I tried. I did. I tried… Because of them all the plans are ruined.

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Every excuse seems to me to be perfectly reasonable and warranted

Usually you’ll want to have people rsvp and not do any planning until you know how many people have committed.

At 30+ life really starts lifing. It seems like that’s exactly what’s going on & while I can understand the disappointment, your response shows a sense of entitlement instead of empathy for things going on in those close to you. Honestly, once you’re out of kid years, parties seem less appealing for most. Do something with your partner that you two can enjoy together instead of planning for disappointment & resentment

Multiple have kids. They didnt use the kids as the excuse. But also theyve had a year to plan this off. Why keep me on the hook for a year just to blow me off the last minute? Why waste a year of my life planning shit instead of just saying from the beginning. No I cant/wont go. Its that simple!!! Dont waste peoples fucking time, energy, and money for over a year!!! Its rude as hell!

I understand being upset, but I would assume a test for his health is way more important than a party. Should he request he finds out if he has a heart issue the day after the party instead? It's teetering a little entitled. I know there's probably a lot of money and time that you feel you've wasted, but time for plan B. These things happen. Also sounds like they're not *your* friends, so I wouldn't really feel any type of way about them personally if I were you. Annoying situation though, yes

What do you mean do you want to find out about your heart issue on your best friends milestone birthday 😂 ?

I love my friends, but their birthday isn’t exactly a major date in my calendar. If I get an appointment, I’m taking the first one available.

Is this on a weekday? I assume so as so many people are needing to book time off, I would think a weekend celebration would be easier!
This is why I hate birthday parties! 🙄

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