Baby dad destroying my things

I was done with him a few weeks ago he doesn’t see his child apart from maybe 1 hour on a Sunday occasionally he just demands everything back he ever got me the whole 4 years I knew him or pay him back all he got me was some clothes and a 1.2k car which I need to transport our daughter around
I said I’ll pay you back if you really need it )he doesn’t he makes 4 k months) everything else he ever got me was destroyed long ago after any argument we had by him

He said fine I’m not giving you any money for our child till you repay me 4k ) I am on universal credit and get 800 to live on)
Like that money is for our child… not me he’s so selfish
Anyway I work up today he came in the night to slash all my tyres and cut the battery off..
So i now have no car to take me daughter to appointments and nursery.
He’s so so selfish and evil I asked him why he did that he said it’s my car fuck you

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Finances - how do you share these?

Curious to know what others do in terms of shared finances - mortgage, bills etc. My husband and I have always done everything 50/50 but since having our daughter and me returning to work on reduced hours, my salary has reduced and with the cost of living I'm finding it hard to save.

For context, my husband earns almost double what I do, and I'm wondering now if we should be managing shared finances in a way that's more proportionate to our earnings e.g. he puts in more as he earns more.

Is this the norm? I'm so curious as to what other couples do, but don't feel I could ask this to my friends and people I know personally as I find talking about money so uncomfortable! 😅

Who’s in the wrong?

Adults keep a firearm hidden in there dresser. Kid knows there’s a firearm in there, adults tell him to not touch it. Kid still grabs firearm. Adults scold the kid for disobeying.

WHO SCOLDS THE ADULTS???

Don’t have firearms unless you’re taking the proper precautions!!!!!!!

Fucking dumb fucks.

Witch hunt...

This might cause problems. But I am sick of expressing an opinion that is DIFFERENT and it causing a witch hunt.
This app is supposed to be for support, expressing opinions and seeking advice and friendship.
Honestly, i just feel like telling someone to "come at me bro".
I didn't supervise all my daughter's naps and sleeps... light the torches
I don't use float vests etc for swimming lessons. I use rings when not doing swimming lessons... form a mob
I don't always cook fresh... tie the noose
I let my daughter play in the mud... STRING ME UP!!!
I raise my daughter the way I see fit she is not neglected or abused. She eats most things I give her. She is a happy and loved little girl. She is also the picture of health!!
She has slept in her own room since she was 5 months old.
We've practically stopped breastfeeding.
If you do not like my opinion or the way I do things... MOVE ALONG!! Or ask me why! I will happily answer. But for god sake, STOP THE WITCH HUNT!!!

How do I make sure my baby is getting what she needs?

My 10month old has pretty much decided to wean herself off her bottles already for the most part. We're really just doing one in the morning before her nap and one a little bit before bedtime, other than that she prefers solid foods. How do I make sure shes getting all the nutrition she needs, enough protein, fiber, iron, etc.? Any food or recipe suggestions? Thanks!

TW: SA?? I need help

I've been really struggling because I've been remembering some things from my childhood that I had completely blocked out, regarding my dad. They're very strange memories, and I'm 100% sure they happened. No matter how I look at it, it's not appropriate behavior.
I have a very rocky and unstable relationship with him. This past year, after my baby was born, we discovered he's a drug addict, but he's always had problems with substance abuse. I don't know if I'd rather remember more and have to decide to distance myself from him (I don't know if I'm brave enough to say anything to the rest of the family) or if I should ignore these feelings. The idea of cutting him out of my life for some reason seems unthinkable to me. I don't know if I feel sorry for him? I'm having trouble processing my emotions about him.
TW: My most vivid memory is from when I was very little. It was normal in my home for my parents to walk around naked when it was hot, but I remember my dad getting out of the shower, and I stared at him and asked him what he had between his legs (I must have been 3 or 4 years old). He told me it was his penis and asked if I wanted to touch it, and I did. I remember it was hard. I don't remember what happened after that.
I'm so ashamed to even write this here. I've never told anyone, but my mom once said, laughing, that I had told a family dinner with a lot of people that I had touched my dad's penis. (this makes me feel like it probably wasn't a big deal, if my mom knew, but at the same time, she has a history of making excuses for his behavior, even when it was BAD.)
When I was a child, I was also abused by a neighbor. I also had hypersexual behaviors for someone so little, and I had problems with urinary incontinence until I was a teen. I also remember being afraid when my dad came home at night. All these things make me think that maybe more happened, and my brain blocked it out to protect me. He also slapped me when I threw tantrums; the last time he physically assaulted me I was 14. I remember being put in the shower and having ice-cold water poured over me, with my clothes on, when I was a kid. All of this was considered acceptable behavior in my house.
I don't know if I'm exaggerating or not. Thank you so much if you read everything. If someone would be so kind as to share their experience or opinion, it would help me a lot!!!

Do I need to leave baby with family?

Okay so she is 1 in 3 weeks and never left her with any family. Shes only been with either me or husband. She starts nursery in January and people are saying I need to start leaving her else nursery will be a shock. Do I need to? For various reasons I just dont trust my in laws or sisters to care for her. Ive seen things i didn't like when they are with her such as I came back from loo and she was eating plant soil and they laughed, letting her play with cat toys with tiny bells which she could choke on, letting her chew on wrapping paper. did anyone not do this and their baby was fine at nursery? Thanks x