Starting solids opinions

Is anyone else struggling with the amount of comments and getting told what we should do for starting solids? my baby is 5 months and iv been getting told to feed him at 4 months. Everytime people visit now it’s “have you fed him yet” or “he needs food” I honestly think i’m going to stop visitors for a whole months

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Boomers be booming! 😊 It was 4 months when we were babies. Guidance is now around 6 months. I'm so happy all these people fed their baby how they wanted to feed them. Now leave me to feed *my* baby the way I choose. 😬

God can relate to this! Im always like im her mum and shes thriving and ill go by my instinct! For reference we have just started food/weaning and people are now like oh your only starting her on one Veg! Its just relentless but fully empathise with you!

They are INTENSE. I don’t get a break!!!

Omg this is all i get too is “you need to start on baby rice” they can’t cope when iv said im starting him on veg 🫠

Oh god the whole baby Rice thing does my head in! We are following a rough guide of a weaning book and im like there is no mention of baby rice and i dont want to get into that! Much rather she has a healthy relationship with all food from get go! My mother in law said "oh you only started her on brocolli. You should give her meat as well" well yes thats what it said to do is start on veg and she only has a small tummy so dont want to upset it too much! These 80s/90s parents do my head in aha!

I don’t hear the end of baby rice 🤣 I told them i’m not going to be using it and next minute they bought it for me!!! I was so angry.

Baby rice can get in the bin 😂

I agree 🤣 so much hate towards it now 🤣

You know your baby best so just ignore all the outside noise if you can 😂🤞🏻

We've just started and are only doing vegetables too. We keep getting told to do baby rice and porridge and im like nope not yet 🙃

Yeah, I feel you! 6 months has been the advice for 23 years now so it's not like it is new advice!

I got asked at 3 months(!!!) how he was getting on with food, the horror when I said we weren't going to be weaning until 6 months 😅

My little boy is big as well so people love to use that as a suggestion he needs food rather than the fact that he is thriving on milk!

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Stubborn husband

Hi! I’m a new mum to a 5 week old baby boy and there is zero routine!
My husband is so good at helping me despite being at work full time. He still does at-least 50% of the housework and cooking and gets up once in the night to feed the baby.
I do the other 50% and then look after the baby during the day and do all bar the 1 night feed.
Whenever I get overwhelmed my husband steps in and will take the baby - however, whenever he’s clearly overwhelmed he will not give me the baby!
Last night for example, the baby woke up at 4:30, my husband got him back to sleep, 35 mins later he woke up, my husband insisted it was his turn so went to put him back to bed, he got him back to sleep at 6, put the baby back in bed and he started to wake up straight away - each time he came back in the room I could just tell he was getting more stressed out but he would not take my offer to swap, despite the fact he needed to be up and getting ready for work by 7:30 and had been up settling him for over 2 hours.
I think he just wants to do an amazing job, which is lovely, but how do i make sure he’s willing to accept my help? Did anyone else’s husband/partner react to having a newborn like this?
He massively struggles with change and has dealt with depression previously so I worry about how having a newborn who is so unpredictable is effecting him.
Tia x

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Hello. I have one question. I am SAHM and my husband works earning around £4000 a month after tax. He gives me £600 every month to cover groceries and household items which normaly cost around £500 or £550. We have two children aged 5 years and 10 months. So nothing much left for my personal spending without me going back to him and asking him for more money, which is most of the time met with lots of questions and me feeling like a child asking a parent for pocket money. Like I need to be scared to buy anything without him judging me. I do not have access to his bank account and therefore to any family funds what we hold. So I am just asking if this is a normal standard situation for SAHMs or should I demand joint access to his accounts and equal right to spend? Obviouly with common sense. Every big purchase would need to be discussed. But me for example wanting to buy new clothes or in need of personal items without me going to him asking for "permission". What should I do? His opinion is that he works and it is his money. So what about me? Am I not doing enough don't deserve to feel like an equal partner? Don't I have any rights? How are you handling finances as SAHM ?

Baby dad destroying my things

I was done with him a few weeks ago he doesn’t see his child apart from maybe 1 hour on a Sunday occasionally he just demands everything back he ever got me the whole 4 years I knew him or pay him back all he got me was some clothes and a 1.2k car which I need to transport our daughter around
I said I’ll pay you back if you really need it )he doesn’t he makes 4 k months) everything else he ever got me was destroyed long ago after any argument we had by him

He said fine I’m not giving you any money for our child till you repay me 4k ) I am on universal credit and get 800 to live on)
Like that money is for our child… not me he’s so selfish
Anyway I work up today he came in the night to slash all my tyres and cut the battery off..
So i now have no car to take me daughter to appointments and nursery.
He’s so so selfish and evil I asked him why he did that he said it’s my car fuck you