Starting solids opinions

Is anyone else struggling with the amount of comments and getting told what we should do for starting solids? my baby is 5 months and iv been getting told to feed him at 4 months. Everytime people visit now it’s “have you fed him yet” or “he needs food” I honestly think i’m going to stop visitors for a whole months

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Boomers be booming! 😊 It was 4 months when we were babies. Guidance is now around 6 months. I'm so happy all these people fed their baby how they wanted to feed them. Now leave me to feed *my* baby the way I choose. 😬

God can relate to this! Im always like im her mum and shes thriving and ill go by my instinct! For reference we have just started food/weaning and people are now like oh your only starting her on one Veg! Its just relentless but fully empathise with you!

They are INTENSE. I don’t get a break!!!

Omg this is all i get too is “you need to start on baby rice” they can’t cope when iv said im starting him on veg 🫠

Oh god the whole baby Rice thing does my head in! We are following a rough guide of a weaning book and im like there is no mention of baby rice and i dont want to get into that! Much rather she has a healthy relationship with all food from get go! My mother in law said "oh you only started her on brocolli. You should give her meat as well" well yes thats what it said to do is start on veg and she only has a small tummy so dont want to upset it too much! These 80s/90s parents do my head in aha!

I don’t hear the end of baby rice 🤣 I told them i’m not going to be using it and next minute they bought it for me!!! I was so angry.

Baby rice can get in the bin 😂

I agree 🤣 so much hate towards it now 🤣

You know your baby best so just ignore all the outside noise if you can 😂🤞🏻

We've just started and are only doing vegetables too. We keep getting told to do baby rice and porridge and im like nope not yet 🙃

Yeah, I feel you! 6 months has been the advice for 23 years now so it's not like it is new advice!

I got asked at 3 months(!!!) how he was getting on with food, the horror when I said we weren't going to be weaning until 6 months 😅

My little boy is big as well so people love to use that as a suggestion he needs food rather than the fact that he is thriving on milk!

it’s draining 😭

My lo is only 5 months but showed signs of wanting food around 4 months so I just give him 1-2 spoons of things I feel comfortable with giving him. every baby is different and you will know when they are ready as hard as it is you just got to ignored the comments from others as it’s your baby and you know them best do what you feel is right and what you are comfortable with😊 they will still be getting all the nutrients they need from milk so don’t feel pressured or rushed to start weaning

Eugh baby rice. And baby porridge... Blitz dry oats in a blender at home...ta daa, baby porridge. It's all clever marketing. We're starting on single taste veg for a week or so. Then adding meat, then a carb. Good luck,, everyone.

What’s wrong with baby rice? I’ve just bought some but am I missing something ?

it’s just heavily processed. Babies do not need it and studies show that babies that young shouldn’t have starch or especially start on starch

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Finances - how do you share these?

Curious to know what others do in terms of shared finances - mortgage, bills etc. My husband and I have always done everything 50/50 but since having our daughter and me returning to work on reduced hours, my salary has reduced and with the cost of living I'm finding it hard to save.

For context, my husband earns almost double what I do, and I'm wondering now if we should be managing shared finances in a way that's more proportionate to our earnings e.g. he puts in more as he earns more.

Is this the norm? I'm so curious as to what other couples do, but don't feel I could ask this to my friends and people I know personally as I find talking about money so uncomfortable! 😅

Who’s in the wrong?

Adults keep a firearm hidden in there dresser. Kid knows there’s a firearm in there, adults tell him to not touch it. Kid still grabs firearm. Adults scold the kid for disobeying.

WHO SCOLDS THE ADULTS???

Don’t have firearms unless you’re taking the proper precautions!!!!!!!

Fucking dumb fucks.

Witch hunt...

This might cause problems. But I am sick of expressing an opinion that is DIFFERENT and it causing a witch hunt.
This app is supposed to be for support, expressing opinions and seeking advice and friendship.
Honestly, i just feel like telling someone to "come at me bro".
I didn't supervise all my daughter's naps and sleeps... light the torches
I don't use float vests etc for swimming lessons. I use rings when not doing swimming lessons... form a mob
I don't always cook fresh... tie the noose
I let my daughter play in the mud... STRING ME UP!!!
I raise my daughter the way I see fit she is not neglected or abused. She eats most things I give her. She is a happy and loved little girl. She is also the picture of health!!
She has slept in her own room since she was 5 months old.
We've practically stopped breastfeeding.
If you do not like my opinion or the way I do things... MOVE ALONG!! Or ask me why! I will happily answer. But for god sake, STOP THE WITCH HUNT!!!

How do I make sure my baby is getting what she needs?

My 10month old has pretty much decided to wean herself off her bottles already for the most part. We're really just doing one in the morning before her nap and one a little bit before bedtime, other than that she prefers solid foods. How do I make sure shes getting all the nutrition she needs, enough protein, fiber, iron, etc.? Any food or recipe suggestions? Thanks!

TW: SA?? I need help

I've been really struggling because I've been remembering some things from my childhood that I had completely blocked out, regarding my dad. They're very strange memories, and I'm 100% sure they happened. No matter how I look at it, it's not appropriate behavior.
I have a very rocky and unstable relationship with him. This past year, after my baby was born, we discovered he's a drug addict, but he's always had problems with substance abuse. I don't know if I'd rather remember more and have to decide to distance myself from him (I don't know if I'm brave enough to say anything to the rest of the family) or if I should ignore these feelings. The idea of cutting him out of my life for some reason seems unthinkable to me. I don't know if I feel sorry for him? I'm having trouble processing my emotions about him.
TW: My most vivid memory is from when I was very little. It was normal in my home for my parents to walk around naked when it was hot, but I remember my dad getting out of the shower, and I stared at him and asked him what he had between his legs (I must have been 3 or 4 years old). He told me it was his penis and asked if I wanted to touch it, and I did. I remember it was hard. I don't remember what happened after that.
I'm so ashamed to even write this here. I've never told anyone, but my mom once said, laughing, that I had told a family dinner with a lot of people that I had touched my dad's penis. (this makes me feel like it probably wasn't a big deal, if my mom knew, but at the same time, she has a history of making excuses for his behavior, even when it was BAD.)
When I was a child, I was also abused by a neighbor. I also had hypersexual behaviors for someone so little, and I had problems with urinary incontinence until I was a teen. I also remember being afraid when my dad came home at night. All these things make me think that maybe more happened, and my brain blocked it out to protect me. He also slapped me when I threw tantrums; the last time he physically assaulted me I was 14. I remember being put in the shower and having ice-cold water poured over me, with my clothes on, when I was a kid. All of this was considered acceptable behavior in my house.
I don't know if I'm exaggerating or not. Thank you so much if you read everything. If someone would be so kind as to share their experience or opinion, it would help me a lot!!!

Do I need to leave baby with family?

Okay so she is 1 in 3 weeks and never left her with any family. Shes only been with either me or husband. She starts nursery in January and people are saying I need to start leaving her else nursery will be a shock. Do I need to? For various reasons I just dont trust my in laws or sisters to care for her. Ive seen things i didn't like when they are with her such as I came back from loo and she was eating plant soil and they laughed, letting her play with cat toys with tiny bells which she could choke on, letting her chew on wrapping paper. did anyone not do this and their baby was fine at nursery? Thanks x