MIL coming to our bedroom
Mamas I’d love your thoughts on something. My husband wants more privacy after the baby, but my mother in law is offering a lot of help and coming into our room often to check on me and baby or put the baby in her cot when she falls asleep downstairs and all which I don’t mind as she trying to help?! Husband is not happy at all seeing her coming inside our room saying there should be boundaries as it strictly for us not even family must be allowed inside …. I totally understand what he’s saying but at the same I’ve just given birth nd I’ve got MIL offering to help or knocking to come in am I supposed to say pls don’t come in?! I feel stuck in the middle, not sure how to move forward with this as she’s still with us … pls any advice or suggestion? or do u agree on what am saying ? If I’m wrong fair enough but I feel like I’ve done nothing wrong ? Plus I guess he can speak to his mum? Or? & if anything should the MIL not know this ? if u get what I mean .. also he’s saying when she offered I can say “ let me get my husband” most of the times he’s asleep during the day ? Like okay ….
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He's being absolutly ridiculous in my opinion. And if he doesn't want her there he should be doing everything she is doing without having to be asked....
If he’s asleep in the bedroom when MIL comes in, or is he sleeping somewhere else?
Because I can get that he finds that uncomfortable.
If he’s sleeping somewhere else however, then what’s the problem?
As long as you’re not put out, then who cares!
You could mention it to MIL and then do as your husband says, go and get him every single time! Let it be a lesson for him.
Lauryn hit the nail on the head and I don't have much more to add. Provided there is nothing out that's embarrassing in your bedroom, I wouldn't have an issue if that is where the baby's cot is and she's putting the baby down. I don't think that's overstepping at all. That help when you've just given birth is an absolute godsend and he needs to realise that.
Get all the help you can from your MIL.
Let him sort his issues out with his mum by himself.
You've done absolutely nothing wrong.
Wake him up! Why is he sleeping when you need help and then complain? Personally I don't see a problem if you're happy for the help. If he has a problem then he should speak with his own mother
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