Step son eating everything

Well you said you already know this is normal.... Have you tried getting him more filling food? Or maybe talked to him yourself? I obviously don't know how long he's been your step son but surely you could at least have a talk with him saying "hey I really don't appreciate when you take food intended for me. Is there maybe some snacks youd like us to get for you to have whenever? "

Could you have a snack drawer for snacks he can have? Then anything you don’t want him to have like your personal chocolates put them elsewhere

What is your relationship like with your stepson?

Were the chocs he ate, ones that he gave you? Or were they from your other kids?

Does he live with you full-time?

Do you know if he is the same with food at his mother’s house?

i used to do this at my dads house during covid, i got so fat, i wish someone had told me to stop and that i was getting fat lol, might be worth just saying the amount of crap he’s eating he will just get fat from it and just be really straight up about it

This is very normal for teenagers! They're going through a growth spurt and dealing with a lot of physical changes. You might have to hide/lock up your chocolates for a while and reduce the amount of sweet snacks in the house - if it's not there he will have to eat the healthy snacks!

I would definitely talk to your stepson about the mothers day chocolates. Id tell him that it hurt your feelings because they were a gift for you. Id tell his dad to tell him he needs to replace them.

My stepson is 11, he also eats everything! When i go food shopping i specifically ask him what snacks he wants.. he knows once theyre gone, you can just eat everyone elses snacks without asking first. Sometimes ill say yes, sometimes ill say 'nah kid, theyre mine.. you can have a banana if youre hungry'

It feels a little disrespectful to jist demolish everything without considering anyone else.

Is he emotionally eating?

My husband’s nephew would sneak food and snacks and anything he could get a hold of

He put on a lot of weight and his health was in jeopardy

They put him in therapy and he took up wrestling to get healthy again

Maybe have that conversation with both your partner and his son that it’s concerning because of health risks. Becoming diabetic and risk of heart disease etc

Teenagers need more calories than any other age group, and it only increases until they are like 16-18 then starts to go down again. Defo hide your own snacks and punish for eating your chocolate but he may jusy need more food than you realise. Maybe a snack budget for him to buy his own or something would help and be good for his independece

I agree with what people commenting give him a snack drawer and a budget to get his own snacks but definitely bring up to him how he ate your chocolates. He 13 he not dumb

I think the only real solution is to not keep sweets in the house until things calm down.

Talk to your step son directly maybe ?

I have a 16 year old. He does the same thing. If I have "special" cookies or chocolate or candy it comes to my bedroom. Everything in the pantry is free reign for the whole house hold. If my child is hungry he eats except close to dinner time. Thats the only time I restrict his eating junk.

Talk to partner, he should be handling this in whatever way you two agree to.

Meanwhile you can stock healthier foods so he can raid some mandarines and cucumbers.

I have a snack drawer for my daughter with her snacks. She knows she is only allowed from there so maybe give that a try? Get him his own snacks and place for it and tell him to only eat those. Gone is gone

Ooo the mother's day chocolate is a step to far. He needs to learn some respect for sure. The other food , maybe needs to be talked about too , but also it's down to you guys what you buy and leave out for him. But the mother's day chocs is crazy. He shouldn't be taking your gift . Very disrespectful I'm shocked your partner did nothing . My husband would be fuming