Shared bath time responsibility

Don’t let the opinions of others mess up what works for you guys!

I have the main responsibility of bathing our daughter because my partner works over nights, when he’s home I still have to do it because she doesn’t like to change it up.

Most of those posts are out of fear that the father will do something bad/they don’t trust him, because the mother has childhood trauma, or the concern that the daughter won’t understand what is appropriate or inappropriate behavior from adults. If your husband is a good man, appropriate with your child and you don’t have that trauma then don’t feel like you have to copy other moms. Those are personal decisions. When she’s older, she can bathe herself but she’s a toddler and it makes sense for her parent to be present. Teach her about appropriate behavior from others and to talk to you if any adult makes her uncomfortable whether it’s family, friends, teacher or anyone else. Listen to your intuition and momma instincts. Anyone I’ve talked to about the topic doesn’t trust men enough to bathe a girl. It’s totally your decision.

I dont see anything different between a father bathing his daughter and a mother bathing her son. It's not weird unless you make it weird, and why would you? (Not saying YOU, but in general)

By the time they're at an age where they might prefer being bathed by mom or your husband might even start to feel more comfortable with you bathing her, they will likely be old enough to do most of it themselves anyways. Being monitored for safety still, but able to scrub their own bodies.

Honestly, if someone is actually worried about their husband bathing his own daughter, that would concern me more. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I bathed with my dad until I was 5 or 6. Nothing weird about it to us at all and have very fond memories of bath time as a child x

That's disgusting that women would even think of their own partners that way. Why would you have him in the house at all if you think he can't bathe your toddler? My partner does bath times, he's quite good with them. I do the prepping towels, hairdryers and what they'll wear getting out, then I dry them off

We usually just have the parent that is more free at that moment give a bath. She washes her own body now with prompts and the only part we do is wash her hair and her back for her. She’s 3.5yo. Then it’s just supervision while she has a play! She tells us when she wants to get out, usually after about 15 minutes and then the opposite parent gets her dry and dressed. Until she expresses that she doesn’t want her daddy to help her then we’ll continue with that. She already tells us when she goes to the toilet to leave her alone (we leave the door open and wait just outside) while she’s going so she understands privacy.

I have no reason to not trust my partner, he’s changed her nappies from birth so why is a bath any different?

Ladies - THANK YOU SO MUCH!

I thought I was missing something or an archaic unspoken rule about fathers bathing their daughters.

My husband is great and not once has it crossed my mind that he’s that type of character or I wouldn’t have married him… let alone bear two children.

I’m glad we all share the same sentiment ❤️.

I do feel sorry for the trauma suffered by other women. That’s a deep wound that doesn’t heal so I can’t fault them for their concerns.

It’s great to have a partner you can trust because it’s not easy raising children. Single mothers are really trying and I applaud any woman that has to do it solo. My last pregnancy took a toll on my body and I was so grateful for the help. God bless the men out there that are stepping up for the mother of their children and protecting their family.