Sleep help

How do you cope? My little girl will not be put down anymore. She will -scream- the entire way through the night if I am not stood rocking her or feeding her. The second I try and put her down she wakes up and will not stop screeching until she’s picked up again. I have had flu after flu this winter and i was hospitalised earlier this week because my body cant cope with having no rest and being unable to get better. Im so done with this I need sleep. I never wanted to do the cry it out method but even when I’ve had to because I literally didnt have the physical strength to pick her up, she would never stop crying. I tried making the bed warm, laying her on my t-shirt, white noise, lullabies, silence, pitch black then low lights etc etc, I am getting no sleep and its killing me.

Worst part is I have a husband but he has no regard for any of it. He’s never once helped me put her down or woken up to soothe her not a single time and shes almost 10 months. He knows how ill I am and how much I need rest. His excuse is that he goes to work. I was supposed to return to work a few weeks ago and I did go a couple days but then I have been put on bed rest by the doctors and not worked since because I physically can’t. I am so sick of being ill and he’s completely neglecting me and our daughter. How does anyone do this.

Sorry needed that rant

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I remmember all of this with my now two year old, do whatever it takes to get them to sleep in the cot at first. Then if they wake in the night id just co sleep F it lol, youlle be fine. Dont suffer get sleep. It genuinley wont be forever honestly there came a point my son just started sleeping longer anyway xx

I’ve been there. I know they say don’t, but co sleeping saved me. Sounds like a regression and they do end. My daughter was as difficult as they come. Then at 18 months just chilled out. I know that’s annoying to hear, but believe when people say it ends, because it does. Honestly you sound burned out. I don’t know what your networks like, but maybe ask someone to have her for a few hours on a day. So you can have a nap, even an hour would make all the difference. And check out the lullaby trust for safe co sleeping tips if you’re interested in the route. This does pass. You’re also doing great.

Sorry about your husbands refusal to help. I have nothing but insults to say and nothing helpful to you rn. Hope you solve this soon x

Have you tried side lie feeding? Then she can stay latched and you can sleep

What about if you lie on an incline and have her in the nook of your arm so she's kinda ontop/to the side of you. You can feed in that position and use pillows or something to hold your arm there

Thank you, i do its just driving me insane not being able to get comfy, i physically cannot stay feeding her the whole night every night, i dont know how to get her to stop

If you've tried all the obvious things...calm sleep environment, adjusting naps, making sure she's full from the day then you literally can't make someone sleep without sleep training. It's rough but it is a phase 😪

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