kissing a newborn

my mum and dad keep kissing my 4 week old baby. i let it slide when its his head or his cheek which to be honest i shouldn’t but ive caught my mum now kissing his lips , i told her the other day dont kiss his lips .. she then said im kissing his nose which i know is bull since i saw it in front of my eyes , today she then gave him a wet kiss on his lips, im beyond pissed off and she isn’t taking me seriously . what makes it worse is she is a health visitor who should know about newborns and how kissing on the face especially the lips is a big no no! oh and she was complaining not even an hour ago about how she had a runny nose.

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Don’t let her hold him then if she’s not respecting you. Tbh I’d have given one chance and that’s it, RSV and herpes is no joke and can do extreme damage to a tiny baby. I would genuinely not let them hold him.

Congrats on your baba but definitely protect him and your peace x

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Congrats on your little one. As Skye said stop letting them hold baby. When they moan and ask why tell them you set a boundary and they couldn’t respect it. They can either not kiss baby or not hold baby at all. Baby wearing at their house is a great way to get around it as well. It’s still flu season, bubs is too young to have had any vaccines and it will be you dealing with a poorly baby not them when they keep breaking your rules.

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