MIL not listening
Just looking for a bit of advice. I'm really lucky to have a "village" and once a week my MIL watches the baby (10 wk), so I can shop/nip to the gym etc. The only problem is she doesnt feed her. Ill have expressed ready to go or formula as back up but she never feeds her.
My LO tends to cluster feed a little on a morning as shes a decent night sleeper, but only really cries at desperation - she puts her hand in her mouth or grunts as early warnings. Ive told MIL this, and asked her to feed when she sees it. Ive tried saying "she was fed 30 mins ago, she'll want another in half hour", but she never does.
Yesterday I explained shed been really hungry and hadnt expressed much as shed fed so much I hadnt had chance, said to give her a little formula as she'll want it in about 45 mins. I got home 3 hours later and asked how much shed eaten.
"Oh, nothing, she had a little cry but we distracted and she went to sleep. She'll probably be starving when she wakes up".
She was starving. And then had both sides (which she doesnt normally do) and ended up more refluxy and messed up her timings all night, so she woke up more through the night (not ideal as we have an event today).
I dont wanna fall out as I'm grateful for the help but I'm running out of things to try. My husband is on my side and wants to tell her not to come if she just wants her "to sleep" and not actually look after her. Any advice??
Breastfeeding Mums - what are you doing at night?
As our babies are starting to sleep longer stretches, I wanted to ask for those breastfeeding how they deal with their milk. I find even if I am still feeding 2 or even 3 times in the night, the time in between is still longer than in the day so I often find I wake up having leaked through my breast pad, bra and top.
The most obvious thing to me would be to pump, but the nice thing about baby sleeping longer is I thought I would be able to sleep longer too! And I know if I get up to pump (having to sit upright, noise of the pump, sorting the milk after etc) that I would have trouble getting back to sleep. Not to mention it would probably wake my husband up too. Curious how others have dealt with this. Are we just accepting being leaky everywhere? 😂
