Hiya, I’m looking for some advice! We are moving house (3 bed) in a few weeks time and I’m not sure how to allocate the bedrooms! My partner has two sons (5/3) who we have 3 nights per week and we have a 6 month old together. My original thought is my stepsons get the bigger room (they already share) and our son gets the box room but we have decided we want to try for another baby before the end of the year which will ultimately will need to share with our son, and I don’t want to move my stepsons in a small room down the line and upset them. The box room would fit bunk beds and wardrobe and toy storage. We are saving for a loft extension so everyone eventually will have their own space but are 2 years off doing this. They have a big room at our current house and are never in it they prefer to be downstairs with us so we all play together! My partner has no problems with them going in the small room but I want to make sure it’s fair. My question is - Is it unfair to put my stepsons in the box room together now rather than move them into it in the future?
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The are 5 and 3 so I don’t think they are will care if they have a smaller room at that age.

We have 4 children and live in a 3 bed. My stepson and my son share, my step daughter has her own room and then we had the largest room (with a window either end) and ws able to partition so my daughter who's almost 2 now has her own room rather than sharing with us or her 13yr old sister. We had a stud wall with a sliding pocket door

I think you can mix bio and step kids bedrooms, the sex of the children is the biggest thing. So ATM your 6 month old has their own room. But when the next LO comes you can make the choice based on the sex and age of the children based on needs. For example currently why disrupt the older kids sleep with a 6 month old but later down the line they'll be best friends and you could have a girl next that would get the box room. Even if you have another boy then the two tiny ones don't need the same size space as the 3/5 year olds do, I personally think that as they age up their needs and wants change so go off that as you go. When you have a 10, 8, 5 and 3 year old then the 10 year old will more likely want their own space and the other three share a bed/play room. I think room ownership should be a fluid thing as to needs.

We used to have a 3 bed, so it was our room, girls room and boys room (2 girls got the small room, 3 boys got the big room). We have had a 2 bed for 3 years, the step kids have always shared the other bedroom. However the older ones have moved out or don't want to sleep over at dads anymore. Now we have a 6 month old my 15 year old stepson has said he'd rather sleep on a sofa bed and have the space for his computer and clothes etc in the "kids room" instead of actually sleep in the same space as his sister as she is so much younger and not the same sex as him.

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