Anyone else full of doubts now?

I get these exact feelings sometimes and then other times I think I’m going to prove myself and people wrong and be the best mum! Its okay not to be maternal until you have your own and think you won’t know what to do, but most people don’t know what to do and just wing it. I am sure you will make a great mum and always here for a chat! X

My mum was an abusive P.O.S and I have zero family because they're toxic and I made the decision to step away from the hate and drama. I have no friends because I moved countries. I also hate pregnancy because I am disabled and it takes a heavy toll on my body and I have hormonal issues and I gained so much weight and developed GD. I had severe hyperemisis for the first 15 weeks and 3 days. You don't need a role model to be a good mom. You don't even need to know what you're doing. All you need to do is think about the type of mom you wish you had and try to be that for your child. If you feel a disconnect from your baby be kind on yourself because PND is a real thing. I think the fact that you are worried about your baby is already a great sign that you will be a good mom. The newborn phase is tiring but it goes by so fast so enjoy it. Remember fussiness is often caused by trapped winds so if theyre still fussy try burping them some more. Good luck. You got this ♥️

You've got this and you will be amazing ♥️♥️♥️♥️

Not the exact same position but ive definitely had a lot of worry and anxiety around this pregnancy
I have a 2.5 year old who does not sleep and is up every night with night terrors and I know it will be fine but i definitely get the feeling sometimes that I’ve made a mistake having another and worrying about how ill cope.
I think it’s a relatively common thing especially leading up to birth❤️‍🩹

Hearing from friends, you may not feel that rush of love the second you have your baby. Apparently it’s really common. But you will build that bond as you get to know each other. As others said, the fact you are worried about it is a good sign. Just take each day is it comes ❤️

I am on my second pregnancy but with my first I absolutely had these feelings, even long after my daughter was born. I’m not a maternal person and I didn’t bond with her straight away, in fact it took 6 me months to feel a real connection but now (she’s 2.5 years)… I am obsessed!! So just know that even if you have all the worst thoughts and feelings in the world, there IS light at the end of the tunnel and you will get there :)

I’m sorry to hear about your loss ❤️I also have a planned pregnancy after multiple loss but I’ve loved being pregnant and very in love with the idea of being a mum and despite all of that I still worry if I’ll be good enough or worthy etc so I think doubts are completely normal and they are feelings..they aren’t the truth.

I think you being concerned shows your love and that you’ll be a wonderful mum

Also unsure if you relate but as I had recurring loss I started to convince myself I wasn’t that bothered about having children even though it’s something I deeply pined for. It was a coping mechanism and because of that it has made me lose a lot of interest in friends and families baby’s/ kids/ pregnancies etc as it’s easier to just detach. i don’t feel maternal towards them now if that makes sense. I would constantly feel sad otherwise however I used to be, I used to nanny and enjoy being around children more

Emotions around pregnancy and baby’s is really confusing and intense

You being terrified that you may be a useless mother shows that you will be an awesome mother. A terrible mother wouldn’t even be thinking about what kind of mother she would be because that care isn’t there. You are already showing that you care what kind of mum you would be so my guess is that you will really surprise yourself and be the best mum ever. Anxiety is normal, feeling worried is normal. I’m having my first too after a miscarriage and honestly I have no clue what type of mum I will be but I do pray I’ll be a good one. Even thinking about seeing that little face makes me think if we may even have an instant connection or not. We don’t have all the answers now, but we will get there and our love for that baby will grow sooooo much. I just know it.

I’m on my 3rd and this one was mainly my husband’s idea (‘it’ll be fun!’ He said 🙄)

I’ve been freaking out all pregnancy. But I’ve also had a couple of scares - an amniocentesis, a bleed and stuff like that, and each time it’s reminded me that no matter how freaked out I feel, I love this little squirt and I would be devastated if anything happened to him. I try to hang on to that amongst the panic and anxiety.

Hormones are shooting off everywhere at the moment, it’s so normal to be feeling emotional and scared. There are some really shitty mothers out there but you honestly don’t sound like one of them ❤️

This will be my first baby and this was a planned pregnancy but I am not a maternal person in the slightest, I have never had an interest in having babies and I am scared all the time that I won't love my child, I am 39 weeks pregnant and still feel nothing, however I've come to accept that that 'rush of love' may not happen me when she is born and it may just be a slow build and that is completely okay! You're not alone!🩷

I also just want to normalise not having that immediate rush of love. Some mums do, some do not. I didn’t, and I have always considered myself maternal and adore children so it really took me back. But my God did the love come. He’s 2 now and there is nothing that could come close to the love I have for him (except the love I will have for my second, due any day now haha). I also think it’s normal to get anxious about things when you’re so close to giving birth. You learn to be a mum and it takes time so give yourself some grace x