Help. It’s 10:21 pm and I want to give up. I don’t enjoy being a mom.

My 6 week old baby girl has been crying nonstop today, and nothing seems to soothe her. She’s been really gassy, and we think she might have reflux since she’s also been spitting up frequently. She only wants to stay on the breast as well . Shes been feeding for almost an hour, and every time I try to unlatch her, she starts crying again. Has anyone experienced this or know what might be going on? What can I do to help her ? Am I supposed to just let her suck on my breast for the whole night ? I love my baby so much but I’m so frustrated and wish my baby would stop crying.

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Try Gripe Water. Mine was super gassy and fussy when we brought him home. It helps with the gas. If you have one of those swaddlers, wrap her snugly in that also. This combo helped a lot.

Feel free to message me whenever. Just having someone to talk to helps. I’m up at random hours throughout the night and I’ll be a listening ear 🖤

Hey mama. I’m also a mommy to a 6 week old with reflux! Speak to your pediatrician about it. My pediatrician gave us some reflux medicine and gave me tips on changing my diet to help as well and it seems to help !

Also try pumping and giving the baby a bottle of breastmilk before putting the baby down for the night. Sometimes baby fall asleep on breast without getting full and that causes the baby to keep waking up.

The first few months are so difficult and personally it wasn’t enjoyable for me either I felt like I was in fight or flight mode constantly but it does get better ❤️‍🩹 gripe water or intact helps. You just have to keep pushing through, they don’t call it the newborn trenches for no reason 😭

i'm so sorry, i've been there. try mylicon for the gas. i recommend checking for a lip/tongue tie as well, if she has that it could be causing her to swallow alot of air which would cause the gas too. you can get her checked for a cows milk allergy as well bc that can be causing her belly to hurt. it sounds like she's comfort feeding because she's uncomfy. just try to remember your baby's only way of communicating with you is crying. she's not trying to frustrate you, she just needs you.

Hi, I agree with the Gripe water and swaddle suggestion. I too just started using Gripe Water for my son when he’s gassy and it helps. I also swaddle at bedtime. She may not have a good latch, an hour is a long time. Look at her cues next feeding session, check if her fists are tight or if her hands are relaxed. I would say maybe get a lactation consult or breastfeed on each breast for 15-20 minutes. Have you thought about pumping? That way you can see how much milk she’s actually getting. Also, check her little bottom and see if she has a diaper rash. I think around 6 weeks+ they go though a time of intense crying and fussiness, I believe it’s called the witching hour. Look it up.

Gripe water isn’t fda approved. I would talk to pediatrician for gas and reflux prescription my 6 week old got some stuff prescribed and I feel safe giving it to her

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Hi, I'm looking for some advice.
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