Anyone want to co-work from home to share the load?

I’m looking for a small group of ladies with children who’d like to get together and work from home while looking after our children together once a week on Wednesdays.

The idea would be that we share the load - one/some of us supervising the children while other(s) have online meetings.

I would of course want to meet you, if you’re interested, to see if we’d be a good fit, and would be happy to host in my home if we both/all agree that this kind of set up would work for us as people. I’m based in Purley.

This arrangement allows us to be in short reach of our babies while hopefully being able to focus a bit more on work at the same time - other mums who are currently juggling WFH alone with a baby would definitely find this helpful!

Appreciate you may find this a strange ask but I’m unwilling to send my child to nursery or a childminder as it currently stands (anxious baby) and know many women who are currently juggling both, but unfortunately we don’t all live close enough to manage something like this on a weekly basis.

Please get in touch with me directly or comment if interested :) thank you!

in our community

Am i overthinking?

So today I was outside with my toddler playing and walking around on our block close to our yard (she was trying to catch a bird lol) anyway, the road we live in gives a good amount of traffic
Then a car slowed down (I didn’t think too much of it because I come to realize ppl slow down when kids are out) next thing you know I hear “hey neighbor”, old man rolling down his window stopped his car to say it, I instantly thought wtf and I never saw him around before, I watched him a bit and he was driving slow as he was driving away, creeped me the fuck out, called my husband right away which he was only 5 minutes away
It really freaked me out, I always felt safe in my neighborhood (though only been here for 2 years) I hate telling my husband stuff like this because he be reaching but I had to and also i can’t sleep now yall, my husband put chairs on all the doors
I work out early morning in our basement and told him to do the same down in the cellar door to outside, even told him to block the windows. I felt and still feel so uneasy about it and now I don’t feel comfortable taking my children out when my husband isn’t home

Ok for baby??

Can baby have these?? Tesco substituted us like usual. He’s nearly 7 months - would it be ok well done and I make sure they aren’t fatty??

Toys

Hi all, what toys are we giving our almost 6 month old babies? I fear he is bored of all the ones he has 😂

Alone

I feel so alone. Im 22 (23 tomorrow) weeks pregnant. I’m trying to heal and save my relationship with my bf/bd. He cheated on me with a co worker on a trip about a week or two after we found out I was pregnant. Well, he quit that job but is still friends with two of the people from that job. One of these people is like a best friend (Billy) to him but lives a block or two away from the girl he cheated on me with. I have explained to him how stressed it makes me when he goes to hang out with who we will call Billy. Mainly because I have no confirmation that it’s actually Billy he is hanging out with. It’s been a week of arguing because he (bf) will spend more time with Billy than me. Anytime Billy texts to hang out, I get put on the back burner.
I’ve told him I feel alone, I feel like he doesn’t care. He sometimes will say he understands but still continues to do what stresses me out. I don’t know what to do anymore. I feel like I have nothing but my baby anymore.
Ps. Feeling my daughter kick in my belly while I’m drying tears from my face and trying to control my breathing while knowing she can feel my pain…is the most guilt and shame I’ve felt in a long time

9months old - am I unreasonable?

It might sound silly but I'm a bit worry about my little girl development as my mat leave is over and I'm back to work (hybrid-half a week wfh). My husband will be in charge until sep that we'll send her to nursery. He's is a good and caring dad but he can be a bit ocd for a few things like safety or cleaning...

My concern is that because of his fears he doesn’t let our girl have enough floor time or practice pulling herself up. as he worries she might hurt herself. She’s at a stage where she’s learning to pull herself up and loves to bend and reach for things which I believe shows she’s developing very well but my husband gives her very limited time to practice because he thinks nothing is safe.
For example, we have a shelf in her nursery room that’s fastened to the wall and has a guard on the edges. I let her stand there, grab toys, and put them up and down. My husband forbids this. My daughter also likes to touch our wall mirror and gets excited putting her hands and lips on it but he doesn’t allow her. I’ve tried communicating but there’s no way through.

Am I being unreasonable? Any advice?

How can 1 person make me feel so small??

Sorry for the long rant but this has been on my mind for days and I don’t have anyone to talk to.

For context, I don’t have much family of my own so my partners family have always been amazing to me (especially his mom). We went to his grandparents house a couple days ago & it’s the first time I’ve seen her since the pregnancy and she gave me a bit of a speech that went something like this: “when I found out u were pregnant I wasn’t happy, but everything happens for a reason. My grandson is a hard working man and I’m not gonna see him struggling whilst you sit at home all day doing nothing. When the babies older I’ll help you with anything because I want the best for you but you need to be doing something with yourself not sitting back claiming benefits. You want ur son to say both of you worked hard not just his dad. I won’t let anybody take advantage of him” more context: I’ve been out of work for a while mainly for mental health reasons & I was homeless.

She gave me a hug afterwards but honestly it did make me feel really small and almost like I’m seen as a scrounger using her grandson for his money (I’m really not that kind of girl I don’t even like receiving birthday presents). My partner didn’t say anything at the time but afterwards he apologised for how she spoke to me.

Fast forward to last night, it’s been on my mind so much and genuinely hurt my feelings very deeply. Idk how but it got brought up again by my partner and I basically said nobody is gonna tell me how I need to be and he basically told me to shut up about his nan and “how are you gonna speak about her when she wants the best for her grandchild” I do agree her hearts in a good place but now I’m just like okay so she can talk to me however she wants even tho I want the best for my son?????

This whole situation has made me feel distant from everyone and it’s taken away from my joys of the baby coming because I just feel like other people will try and run my life. Am I overthinking?? I’m not sure because I do think she’s a really good woman who’s raised 5 kids really well and she’s always been nice to me but that speech was the most degraded I’ve felt in my life