Feeling like a failure
Baby is 9 months old and I feel like I’m doing everything wrong. He doesn’t sleep well, never has, but I feel like it’s worse at the minute. He has never ever slept through, most he’s done is 6 hour stretch twice. Also, he is not interested in food at all despite trying and offering for the last 3 months. All babies his age seem to be eating well, yet to come across one who doesn’t.
He wakes up 5-10 times a night, normally it’s 2-4, most of the time he’ll only settle on the bottle despite me and my husband trying everything for hours. Sometimes we can rock him back to sleep but then up an hour later. At some point in night bottle won’t even settle him, he’ll only go back to sleep when in our bed. When he does wake up he’s rolling, kicking, slapping etc. he has to sleep with mittens on or he’ll pinch my eyes or scrape my gums etc.
Tried everything with his sleep but this isn’t getting better - even tried consultant but they couldn’t help.
We’ve offered him every type of food but he just throws it on the floor. When we try to offer it to him he purses lips and turns head away. Only thing he’ll eat is melty sticks. Seeing others on 3x bottles a day, my LO is on 6-7x bottles. Weve tried feed him before milk due so he’s not reliant on the bottle but it never works. Tried feeding after a feed but also doesn’t work. Tried feeding in the middle but not interested. Literally tried everything with food, not interested.
Feeling like a real failure of a mum. People saying ‘food is fun before 1’, but I’ll get to 1 and it’s going to become a real problem, which I don’t want. I’m exhausted and so upset.
