Would it bother you if your partner worked opposite hours from you, but only because zero interest in even trying a different schedule?

Ex: you work 5am - 1pm and him 2pm-10pm

I understand a lot of couples do that avoid child care costs which is fully understandable, BUT if he just preferred those hours and refused to work mornings how would you feel? child care not an issue because already in daycare

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I get it but id also be bothered af lol i worked about 7am-6pm most of my career and husband has worked 3pm-2pm most of our relationship and the lonliness, especially with kids at home, can be so hard. Now hes a SAHD and im itching for me time again lol

I would absolutely hate it but I 100% understand why some people have to for a few years, if they have no other option but childcare which is so expensive. My Nana always talks about when she worked nights as a nurse when my dad was younger so that she could be home with the children in the day, while my grandad was at work, they were like passing ships. He’d get home and do tea & bedtime as she was leaving for work. It sounded really tough.

I can’t imagine us ever choosing to work opposing shifts just because we liked it!

Id definitely be bothered. We fall in the category of avoiding childcare, but if that wasnt an issue, id be offended and wondering why he didnt want to spend time with me or the kids.

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