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Living with parents help

I live with my parents and my 3 kids and I’m dying. I’m constantly criticized on my parenting and how I handle situations. I’m in school as well and starting to work part time. I don’t have a car and my boys are little, 6-1 year olds.

I can’t stand being here much longer. It’s almost been a year and I’m over it. I want to save up and get my own car and get my own place but I can’t work much due to my kids ages and my oldest is autistic.

Any advice or suggestions for how to make this situation bearable. We don’t have our own room we sleep in the family room downstairs so our stuff is constantly all over the place. On top of that my parents home had a lien put on it due to my attorney fees for my divorce. I try to contribute as much as I can. My parents were almost empty nesters and haven’t had littles in their home for 12+ years.

We also have very different standards on cleanliness. I admit my standards are much lower due to my adhd, my autistic son and my kids ages.

I just want to figure something out other than either being who they want me to be or continuously going against them and feeling like I’m the hated child.

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Any mom's who grow their own food?

Hello! This is my third year gardening. This year I plan to Preserve what I grow and save seeds as well! I live in Zone 9. But would love to have mom friends who garden/homestead. 💗 Here’s my corn i sowed the beginning of this month. With the warmer weather my seeds are popping up.

Best way to deter squirrels?? I bought some reflective spinners. We found the little digger in my soil is a squirrel.

Looking for some advice or even just to know I'm not alone🥺

First of all I'm sorry, this is going to be long. I am 29 weeks pregnant with my second child. We are absolutely ecstatic as a family to finally be close to welcoming another member.

But I'm feeling so utterly guilty about it, not all the time but I just randomly start feeling really upset and tear up over it. My first son is 7 almost 8 so he has been an only child (my baby) for a long time😭 He has shown no signs of jealousy or any behaviour changes at all and cannot wait to meet his baby bro, this is all coming from me and I can't help but feel so upset about it. Is it just hormones or are these normal feelings when welcoming a second child?

Has anyone felt similar? Will it eventually pass?

Thank you🫶🏼

Gifted toddler - how to proceed?

Our son is 2.5 and everyone has been telling me that he's extremely gifted and that school will be a challenge because he'll be so bored. He can currently:
-Read independently, and knows how to sound out any unfamiliar words
-Count to 50 without help, 100 with help
-identify all basic colors and some niche ones like cyan, magenta
-write his name
-speak in full, descriptive sentences (he is a CHATTERBOX and a total social butterfly, no stranger danger here 😩)
-use the potty independently

However, he's still a toddler. He tantrums, he makes toddler decisions lol, he struggles with big feelings etc.

He is with me (or my mom) 24/7. He's never been to daycare. My question is, how essential is a formal school environment before 5? Should I continue to "homeschool" until kindergarten? Should I seek a Montessori or similar program to challenge him? Any guidance is helpful! He is currently the only child but I am trying for another.

Toddlers Activities

I didn’t realize teaching your child to write their name would require THIS much patience
So I made these little fridge magnets for my two year old daughter… we’re taking it one step at a time.
Her favorite part is when I clap and hype her up after…..
But if I look away for even a second… she’s writing on her hands or something else, had to start using washable markers real quick lol

How’s the learning process going for everyone else?

Losing the will to live..

I’ve had one of those day.. I’m a solo mom of 2 boys.. my 3 year old has been chaos all day.. every half an hour sounds like..,
‘no, you’re making my bed wrong.. no, I don’t like those potatoes, I want different ones.. no, I want more, I want your potatoes too.. no, you’re a naughty mummy.. no, I want to go somewhere fun.. no, you cut my food wrong’

I literally can’t cope and I’m sickened by my sons behavior so much that I can’t even eat the little dinner that I have seeing as he cried about his own dinner and took half of mine. I’m so overstimulated, overwhelmed and tired of everyday being a mental race of all the things I have to do..

It’s my birthday in 2 days and the only thing I seemingly can do is something to entertain my son but he’s so naughty I don’t even want to take him out😞

Regret

Anyone else regret having a baby with your bd. I’m realizing that I have never felt free in our relationship before and he doesn’t even do anything crazy. He just triggers me into feeling small. Never lets me talk, and cuts me off to prove what I’m saying is wrong before I could even finish what I’m saying. When I ask questions he ignores me, just straight up ignores me. BUT when I’m taking a second to respond he gets loud with me. He judges everything I do that makes me happy. When I want to go do something because we have 1 car he thinks of every reason we shouldn’t. Lame reasons too! like it’s too far when it’s 30 away and it’s too late when it’s at 4pm… bffr. He constantly reminds me that I don’t know what I’m doing when it comes to our baby BUT I do research, talk to people and think about what I do plenty times when it comes to our baby before I do it. Im not saying I’m perfect but he says things like our baby shouldn’t be doing this and should be doing this without any knowledge of why I’m doing it or what he’s talking about. I’m frustrated and feeling like I’m just overthinking and being problematic because these things are small and I have good things in our relationship too. Ughhhhh