Sex after indefinitely
My partner cheated on me when our son was 3 months. I found out when I went through his phone and their sex tape. At that point we hadn't had sex for almost a full year. We were intimate for the first time the day after he had slept with the girl and a few times after i found out but now i just cant stand the idea of him touching me or his yk what being anywhere near me. I have cheated before on him in the past prior to the pregnancy maybe a year before and we agreed to move forward wich is why i forgave him but it just feels like his was worse because i was at home with our son and were living together. When i did it we were just starting and lived separately. Am i being unreasonable withholding sex from him?
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honestly the relationship doesn’t sound sustainable, you’ve both cheated on eachother, you don’t trust each other and you can’t stand the idea of him being near you. it doesn’t sound like much of a relationship to me
Hm… don’t get me wrong no one should cheat. Not excusing it for all the future commenters, but cheating after you have children is different. Your actions no longer just affect you and your partner; they affect your children and the trajectory of their lives. How they view themselves, the parents, their future partners, and how infidelity affects the peace of their home and possible divorce/living situations etc. As far as what you asked, you need to have sex when you feel comfortable. It’s not something you just do to please others. You should be enjoying it and if you don’t want him to touch you as you said, then not having sex makes sense. You’ve both hurt each other in ways and probably need couples therapy, or at least to have a conversation about being better to one another and acting on that moving forward. Hopefully the feelings will change to more positive overtime.
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