Am I the problem?
Ok ladies I need help and advice.
I’m currently 4 months and my boyfriend and I have been together around the same time of me being pregnant. At first it was good, I felt supported and it didn’t feel like anything was going wrong but most recently I’m questioning everything.
He’s going through something with his family and I’m trying to be as supportive as possible but since I live with my mom, I can’t help him like I want to. Not only that, I’m in college and focusing on starting a career in healthcare.
Well for him, whenever I’m out by myself or I don’t tell him stuff right away he thinks I’m doing something I’m not supposed to. And the other day I was busy focusing on registering for school and my future with college and kept asking me to have sex with him because I was house sitting for almost a week at my cousins house. This isn’t the only time he’s been acting like I’m being suspicious or doing something behind his back and it’s getting to the point where I’m even scared to tell him how I feel because of how I know he’ll react. He’s not abusive he’s just crazy and overreacts too much and that’s not something I won’t or didn’t see until now.
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Sounds a lot like my son's dad. Very untrusting, reactive to the max, everything i say is me trying to start a fight. It used to only be occasionally, now it's damn near every day. I've lived in DV shelters before, taken many classes on DV. I can say without a doubt it is abusive. It's good you don't live with him and are working on your career. Keep those things up, you're definitely on the right path.
Maybe he's guilty of doing something so he's paranoid?? Or has he been cheated on before so trust issues? Tell him it's pushing you away
Check his phone lol or ask to check it and see his reaction, he’s definitely doing something behind your back to be acting like that. And also if you’re having his child he should be working to get you two a place together if he isn’t gonna take care of his responsibilities and stop acting like a child it’s best you leave.
Definitely a red flag on his part and you are 100% not the problem, he is. If there are issues already and he’s acting like this already I fear it’ll only get worse.
You are not the problem!
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