Does anybody else feel they were cornered/pushed into a C-section

I was induced because of hypertension at 39 weeks. I wanted to labour. I wanted to do what my body was supposed to do. Once my waters were broken. I was told to move to increase the chances of dilating well. Except the little coil thing they attach to baby's head to monitor heartbeat got tugged out and the midwives could monitor him with me moving. So I couldn't move . Contractions were agony but then don't check cervical check me again untill 12 hrs later. I was at 3.5 cm. I was then bombarded by probably 4/5 people coming into the room and telling me. It's Friday evening you should probably have a C-section now cus if I get distressed and tired I'm t may be more difficult for a C-section later. It was then they told me I was bleeding a little. I sobbed. I didn't want a C-section I was so scared. I pleaded for one more hour to see if I'd dilate as much as they wanted me to for that period of time. But within that hour they basically stopped the drugs that were speeding up my labour... Obviously I didn't dilate as they wanted and had to agree to the C-section. I'd already had 2 failed epidurals so they had to do a spinal block. I just feel like I wasn't being informed about what was happening. That decision were being made about my labour for me. My baby was fine his heartbeat was fine. And I wasn't in a position or informed enough to advocate for myself. Not to mention after the shift change the midwife I had was horrible. She was cold and miserable. Like everything I said, did asked was annoying and an inconvenience.

I truly wish the midwives had gone to find someone to refit the spring thing on babies head so I could have moved about in those vital early hours of labour.

Yes I healed rather well and I'm glad my baby and I are alive and well. I just felt so cornered, belittled and not heard.

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Yes i did but it came with not much choice but theirs. I had preeclampsia (i felt fine) so i delivered via c section at 33wks. However when i spoke to a paramedic he said he was puzzled as to why i wasnt induced. To be honest it saved my life and now im pleased ut was done

Hey, thanks for sharing your experience. I feel for you and I’m sorry you feel this way about your birth experience. I had a c-section too after being induced and labour not progressing enough. I couldn’t move too but in my case, I was told that contractions were hurting my baby so I had to lay down and found it extremely difficult at this stage. When I was offered the c-section it felt like a relief because it felt like I’ve done everything I could possibly do to have a physiological birth. I think I would have struggled also if I wouldn’t have felt like people who were surrounding me didn’t support the choose I made without giving me explanation of medical conditions. I don’t know if you know but it’s possible to have a debriefing with the staff who did your birth in hospitals. I don’t know how you can request this but maybe you could ask your health visitor? Sometimes it can help to process feelings when grieving the birth experience you wish you had xx

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