Pov: you get married in 2027, already have a 3 year old, would you take them on the "honeymoon"?

I think we should treat the honeymoon as a family holiday and all go together. My fiancé thinks it should just be the two of us. Thoughts?

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**edit- our child will be turning 3, 3 weeks after we marry - not 3 already**

It would depend on the options for who to leave them with. Our newly 3 year old has had the occasional evening with my MIL and FIL but any more than that I would worry about because as much as she likes them she's never been away from us for a considerable length of time and we see them once every few months so she's happy with them but they don't know her and all her quirks as well as I'd like to go on holiday and leave her. If I had a situation where we had someone who saw her regularly and she was really happy with them I'd be off on the plane lol

Never taking my child on a honeymoon. We can take a family vacation. The honeymoon is so I can do adult things with my husband and forget I have children

Three is young, can you postpone the trip for another year? Make it a first anniversary trip instead.
We are finally taking our 10 year anniversary trip (never did a honeymoon) without our kids this summer. My youngest is 4 so it feels like the perfect time.
If a child is present it’s just a family trip not a honeymoon.

I would do a couple of nights somewhere special in England and then do a family holiday with all of you - best compromise!

I would do a mini moon just the two of you for a few days and maybe make a family holiday from the main honeymoon… you deserve a break just the 2 of you after your wedding… just maybe not 2 weeks in the Caribbean, more 3-4 days in Europe x

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Okay this is such a vulnerable post and I am aware you ladies don’t know me or my situation so I’ll try and paint it as best I can.
My husband on paper is an incredible man. He tends to me the best way he can, is so good with taking on stuff around the house, has been there for my sister when she needed help like moving etc but there’s one thing. I am not happy and don’t think he is either. We recently got married and had our baby. He really loves me but I just don’t think I feel the same. Now it was a very quick marriage as we are Christian’s but it’s starting to feel like that’s the only reason we got married. I got pregnant before our wedding (we were engaged) and leading up to then it was great but now that I am in the heaps of it there was so much that I feel I missed out on. I am in my twenties and feel miserable. Didn’t do what I wanted to do career wise, wanted to go back to my home country, and in part feel it was a mistake marrying him. He’s great but it just doesn’t feel like he’s my person. Now you are probably wondering, “why did you marry him?” Because I thought it’s what I wanted and also partially due to what felt like the pressure to get married. We had external sources say it’s best to marry before the baby is born etc but I am so unhappy. He just breathes and I get the ick. Now this is where I feel lost… I don’t know if I am just incredibly unhappy within myself and I just need to resolve this OR, he genuinely isn’t my person. I used to be very bubbly and outgoing but through the years I had some personal and family issues occur. He was there to support me but in many ways he didn’t know how. I feel incredibly confused on what to do because I don’t feel like this is how it should be. I feel so lonely, scared and depressed. Sorry ladies I know this is such a heavy one and trust me I am not proud of myself. I think I just want validation but if you were to paint a reality check, what would it be? Because I think most of the time we just want our feelings to be heard but not actually do anything about it and I know intellectually I am keeping myself in this place but struggling to face reality.

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Do you find that the profile checks out with the comment that was made?

So I read a post this morning. I was reading through the comments and I stopped on one where all she seemed to do was spread misinformation. Someone responded to her trying to inform her on what was being spoken about and this chick only responded with k. Now obviously the original chick has no manners or class since thats all she responded. And it just showed she doesn't care at all about the topic being discussed. So I decided to check her profile and yup.... checks out. She does make up for a living... now I'm not saying all make up artists are rude and ignorant (I have known a few that weren't) but I feel like unfortunately rude and ignorant just makes sense for that profession. I have seen her comment on other things and she's just as ignorant or rude. Now the chick that responded to her hasn't responded yet, and I hope she doesn't because at this point she's just wasting her time. But hopefully if she does she will respond with dignity and class since the 1st lady couldn't do that.

BUT have you looked at someone's profile to see if the rude/arrogant/ignorant comment checks out and it did?

And for those that might try to stand up for her responding k. You know damn well what she meant. She basically said f you to the 2nd chick. K is NEVER a kind response. It's a smart ass response from someone who thinks they are smarter then the person they are responding to.

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Anxious about recovery.

I’m booked in for a C-section in 3 weeks. I’m a bit worried about how much support I am going to need from my partner.

My partner has a good amount of time off work but he will be mainly looking after our 4yo (he only goes to preschool 3 mornings a week) he will also need to help me with baby, cook, do housework etc. I do find my partner can get quite overwhelmed when there’s lots to do & he’s not great at
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How was your support/recovery? Is there anything I can do to make it easier for us all but also still feel we are in our little bubble?

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