Anxious about recovery.

I’m booked in for a C-section in 3 weeks. I’m a bit worried about how much support I am going to need from my partner.

My partner has a good amount of time off work but he will be mainly looking after our 4yo (he only goes to preschool 3 mornings a week) he will also need to help me with baby, cook, do housework etc. I do find my partner can get quite overwhelmed when there’s lots to do & he’s not great at
multitasking 🙈

How was your support/recovery? Is there anything I can do to make it easier for us all but also still feel we are in our little bubble?

It was easier the first time round as I had an assisted normal birth so recovered quite quickly & we only had the baby to worry about 🤔

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i unfortunately did not get much support post c-section despite being surrounded by family. so much so that my incision reopened!! my biggest advice would be to not push yourself, don’t do much lifting. other than my incision reopening recovery was a breeze! i was up and walking around my room with so much energy on day 2 of recovery. wishing you a happy and successful delivery!!♥️

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I just had our 3rd baby, 5 weeks ago. Recovery was decent.

My husband had 2 weeks off work. We have a 4y in school 5days a week. And the 2.5 year old at home with me.

My mom was here for when I was booked in for my c-section, to take the older kids to school or have at home.

It honestly wasn’t too bad. Rough? Yes. Trying to get everyone on a new schedule and routine.

But not too bad, overall.

I was picking the older kids up by 2 weeks PP. my incision wasn’t affected. Sore. But it didn’t open or anything. No infection. Things were okay.

(Because I’ve had 3 c-sections, I kind of knew what my body could and couldn’t tolerate). I would say take it as you know your body.

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If you have the freezer space, make a ton of freezer-friendly foods before baby gets here. This way you can have like, I dunno, a burrito ready to be nuked at 3am when you're starving, or chicken and rice when the day gets away from you and now things are way too crazy.
Hunger makes everything worse, so I do think this is a good thing to do.

Also, to recover faster from your C-section move a lot as soon as you're cleared. Walk, walk, walk, don't exert yourself, rest when you need it, but walk. You're also having a scheduled one, which means you'll be better rested and you'll recover just as quickly if not faster than a vaginal birth or emergency C-section.

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