Is it time to leave

My feeling is that this man spent a week in jail for a DUI and that wasn’t enough to stop his drinking. It’s a bullshit excuse thst he’s going to have to slow down when the baby comes because you already have one small child together and THAT wasn’t enough to get him to ‘slow down,’ why would he, or you, think that the new baby is going to make him ‘slow down’ (which, btw, if you’re spending a week in jail for a DUI, you need to STOP drinking. ENTIRELY. Not just ‘slow down.’ I would venture to guess that a lot of his issues stem from his alcoholism, and they aren’t going to stop until he stops drinking. Which isn’t looking likely at this rate. Also, I would not put it past him to drive with one of your children in the car. Are you really prepared to take that risk??? That’s a pretty big gamble to end up on the losing side of…… 🫤 It’s PAST time to leave him (older kid problems aside! Those are a whole different reason *because he refuses to deal with them*). If he gets sober (contd.)

after you leave, then you can cross that bridge when you come to it and see if your marriage can be saved/salvaged then, but until then, and ONLY until then, you need to go and create the life thst both you, and most definitely both of those babies deserve. Because they are the ones who end up REALLY losing out. They need at least one stable and secure parent (and one who has supervised visitations until he can, and does, prove his sobriety because that price is just too big to pay. He’s clearly ok putting everyone else’s babies at risk, I’d be willing to bet that he’s ok taking that risk with yours too. Especially if you’re not around to make sure that he’s not!!!

I think deep down, you know the answer

It sounds like you have already checked out of the marriage, staying is just making you resent him even more maybe go have a break from him

that man is toxic. feeling sad for you. maybe he needs therapy or counseling. looks like he’s depressed too. i’d say if you have support system then you should leave with your kids to secure your future.