Just venting

Going crazy
For context: we have been married for 9 years. Yesterday he started giving the silent treatment and today after coming back from an interview he texts me that he wants a divorce “that he is not good enough for me” said he is not living with me anymore. Printed and filled out divorce papers. I haven’t worked in 8 years and have 4 kids. My world is shattered and I don’t know what to do

in our community

Have you ever given birth alone ONLY due to childcare?

Before any asks or judges: our son has never been with anyone but us... No nursery, no other family, no babysitter or child minder etc etc. my family also lives 4000 miles away in Canada and no they cannot fly out last minute due to many reasons as my Mum and step Dad could not afford it due to the cost of living in Canada, my Mum also works for the military so can just book off last minute, we can't afford to fly them out as it would cost $300-$4000 between return flights, paying for a coach from London to West Yorkshire (with their health they can't do a 12 hour layover to come to our local airport), hotel, ubers and food. Furthermore, I am 100% fine with it, to me it will be more magical for my husband to meet his child in the comfort and intimacy of our own home with our little family. Lastly I would rather our son be with his Dad then be separated from us both, with someone different and also going through the stress of having a new baby in the house.

ANYWAYS has anyone else been in the same situation and given birth alone whether it was a vaginal, VBAC or C-section?

Holiday musts

Hi 👋🏼
We’re going on our first family holiday to a caravan in the UK in a couple of weeks. Please can anyone give us tips of what to take and what not to take. My brain fills very overwhelmed right now ahah

When do I start searching for a school & what's the process please? (UK)

My daughter will be turning 3 in October. When should I start looking at schools & what's the process?

I find the thought of it all very overwhelming 😬 plus I don't want to come to terms yet that my baby will be going to school 🥹😭😂

30 hours funded childcare

I am planning on taking my little one to nursery when she is one and I go back go work. I am just trying to figure out finances... how much do you get roughly for the 30 hours free childcare?

Venting! Please share my anger with me lol

Sooooo my toddlers father acted like he doesn't know when Easter is.

I said it's Sunday. Literally this Sunday. 🙄

I asked him if he's going to exercise his right to spend some of the holiday with our toddler.

He said no. That he will be busy spending it with his other kid (16 yr old from his 1st baby mama) in a theater that isn't toddler friendly.

I said okay, just so we're clear, you were given the opportunity. And then I ended the convo. (It's a court order that he is allowed to exercise his right to holidays)

Here's my problem.

This dude cant use some time in his day before or after the movie to toss some eggs in a field, give our lil one a bucket, and say "go pick em up!"? .....no Easter basket? Nothing? Wtf dude.

Not even take him for a happy meal or an ice cream cone?

Not just chill in the car and vibe to music? Nothing??? Lol the bar is set so low!

I honestly see it as him choosing the company of 1 child over the other on a holiday.

He doesn't live with the 16 yr old. He isn't with the mother of that child either.

I could understand if he woke up in a home that had kids living in it with him... And that was an entire priority that he had to manage

But this is literally him doing eenie meeny miny mo!

THAT'S FINE THO!
this mama has the Easter basket ready, the egg hunt ready, the ham dinner ready!

I don't vent in front of my child so I came here to do it, sorry for the long message ladies! And Happy Easter lol 🐇🥚🍫🐰🐣🧺

Anxious about recovery.

I’m booked in for a C-section in 3 weeks. I’m a bit worried about how much support I am going to need from my partner.

My partner has a good amount of time off work but he will be mainly looking after our 4yo (he only goes to preschool 3 mornings a week) he will also need to help me with baby, cook, do housework etc. I do find my partner can get quite overwhelmed when there’s lots to do & he’s not great at
multitasking 🙈

How was your support/recovery? Is there anything I can do to make it easier for us all but also still feel we are in our little bubble?

It was easier the first time round as I had an assisted normal birth so recovered quite quickly & we only had the baby to worry about 🤔