I'm not a great mother and I don't know how to fix it

This is hard to write.
I find myself easily losing my patience and I feel like I'm creating a horrible environment for my child. I don't think she's happy at home because she probably feels like she needs to be perfect all the time. She's only 3 so she can't tell me all of this but I have none of that cool fun mum in me at all and I find myself being that super strict person I always hated growing up, the person I never wanted to be.
But for some reason even knowing that I can't seem to just un-tense my shoulders and just relax with her, have a good time even if it's chaotic and messy. I don't know what's wrong with me and I don't know how to fix it. I'm meant to be starting therapy soon, but I feel like it's too late and the damage is done. I don't know why I made this post to be honest, but I'm hoping someone out there has all the answers and can maybe help?

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Breastfeeding popularity

Absolutely zero judgement here, but I’m curious how many people actually breastfeed? I exclusively breastfed my first for a year and currently 9.5 months in with my second. Out of the 11 babies in my friend group my 2 are the only ones breastfed past 3 months.

Poopin probs

My son is 4 months old and has always had a hard time pooping (he goes once a day is that). He currently has the stomach bug last week and is starting to feel better, but his poop has been hard some since being sick. He has also been so fussy. I give him gas drops often. What do y’all do when your baby can’t go?

Proud

I have no where else to go with this so thought it would be good to shout out here.
Baby girl is 4 weeks and 2 days old, was ebf however she could not latch deep enough so I went to pumping and bottle feeding.
However last 2 nights baby girl has got extremely restless after her bottle. Tonight my husband said put her on the boob she is it helps her, well I did with a nipple shield and she fed for 25 minutes. Came off content and fell to sleep straight after.
I thought my breastfeeding journey was over and it was bottles breast fed and pumping but think we may introduce a night time breast feeding to see how that is.
I am proud of bay girl and myself.

“ let them cry” “

Some people say you should let babies cry when there needs are met. Personally i am against it but what’s everyone else views ?

Milk supply.

My baby is 6 weeks old, my milk supply has dropped I am exclusively pumping as baby will not latch at all but the last 48 hours my milk has started to smell and taste funny. My baby has become extremely unsettled I’ve had to top her up with formula because no matter how much I’m pumping I’m not producing enough. Over the last 6 weeks I’ve been oversupplying and it’s just suddenly dropped. I don’t know if it is because I am feeling extremely exhausted and run down or if it’s just drying up and coming to an end. I was considering weaning off by 3 months but have been very undecided about that. Has anyone got any advice?

Baby changing bags

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