Gambling help

So my partner has admitted he has a gambling problem and we are currently awaiting counciling for him (its been 2 weeks already since we asked for help 😒)
Just wondering if anyone who's been in this situation has any advice?
Hes spending around £200 a week.
Its hugely damaging us as we are constantly in debt.
I know the first step is admitting it which he has and he wants help but while waiting for the help what are we went to do?
Ive gotten angry and shouted and its not helping so i just feel lost.
Ive never had an addiction so i just dont understand how powerful it is.

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This has been going on years by the way but he finally admitted it a few weeks ago and begged me to help him get help

Is it online gambling? You can contact your bank and block payments for gambling related transactions. If he's drawing money, you could also ask to block withdrawals.
Maybe you control the finances for now ? ☺️

I will add that a guy at my company did this at his partners request but now gets his friends to place bets for him, unfortunately some addicts may find workarounds

If you get private therapy, you can get rates around £45-65, a weekly session with therapist is cheaper than the amount he is currently spending on gambling. It's a good trade off !

There lots of resources that a bookmaker can talk you through. One being something called “Gamstop” which is a self exclusion of online gambling for 5 years, You can also place a gambling block on cards. Then another being “moses” which is a physical self exclusion from every single bookmakers.

Does he actually want to stop? Ask him and ask him to be honest.

For any addict, doesn’t matter whether it’s drugs, alcohol, smoking, gambling etc. the addict has to want to stop for themselves. If they’re not ready to or don’t want to, it’s pointless getting help. This is why him being honest is so important.

In the meantime I’d advise you (and also him) to sign up with Experian, Equifax and TransUnion to obtain copies of all 3 of your credit files to see if he’s made any fraudulent applications for loans/cards in your name and also if he’s any hidden debt related to gambling. Also pay £30 for the 2 years of CIFAS protective registration as this means if he tries to make a fraudulent application in your name, they will block it.

https://www.cifas.org.uk/pr

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