Going over £100k

Hey all,

I might unexpectedly go over the £100k mark this year, which would be a one off. (Work want to bit back my annual leave and I have about 150 days, and hubby might be made redundant so redundancy payment would push him over).

I know about the bits you can do to bring the taxable income down (pension, charity) but I was wondering if anyone knows what happens if you do go over towards the end of the tax year? Do you have to pay the money back that you’ve had that year? Will they refuse you the benefit in the next year even though it was a one off?

Thanks in advance for the advice x

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SEX AFTER BIRTH 🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️

IM DUE APRIL SIX AND THIS MF ALREADY PICKING OUT CONDOMS!!
BTW HES ALREADY FUCKING OTHER WOMEN WE ARE POLY SO I DIDN'T THINK ABOUT SEX AFTER BIRTH
I PLAN ON DOING A VAGINAL BIRTH AND HE WAS LIKE WELL MY OTHER BABY MOMS DIDN'T TAKE LONG TO HEAL🤦🏿‍♀️🤦🏿‍♀️
IM LIKE IM NOT RISKING IT JUST CAUSE YOU WANT TO. HE GOT UPSET WITH ME CAUSE IM LIKE WE WON'T BE DOING ANYTHING FOR A WHILE. TBH NOW I JUST DON'T WANT HIM TOUCHING ME IN GENERAL CAUSE HE ISN'T WORRIED ABOUT MY HEALTH MENTALLY OR PHYSICALLY JUST HIS 1MIN NUT!!
LIKE IM SO OVER IT.

Am I the problem?

Ok ladies I need help and advice.
I’m currently 4 months and my boyfriend and I have been together around the same time of me being pregnant. At first it was good, I felt supported and it didn’t feel like anything was going wrong but most recently I’m questioning everything.
He’s going through something with his family and I’m trying to be as supportive as possible but since I live with my mom, I can’t help him like I want to. Not only that, I’m in college and focusing on starting a career in healthcare.
Well for him, whenever I’m out by myself or I don’t tell him stuff right away he thinks I’m doing something I’m not supposed to. And the other day I was busy focusing on registering for school and my future with college and kept asking me to have sex with him because I was house sitting for almost a week at my cousins house. This isn’t the only time he’s been acting like I’m being suspicious or doing something behind his back and it’s getting to the point where I’m even scared to tell him how I feel because of how I know he’ll react. He’s not abusive he’s just crazy and overreacts too much and that’s not something I won’t or didn’t see until now.

Second child

I genuinely fear I wouldn’t be able to afford a second child. Which makes me so sad because I’d love another and more important I’d love a sibling for my current child.
but I don’t agree with parents who have children or multiple Knowing they can’t afford them and don’t ever do anything about it to try and change it.
I had to hand my notice into work at the end of my maternity leave, due to no nursery spaces and no one to have my son so that’s left me unemployed. Although I know when he starts pre school I’ll be able to get a job and make money again, I just fear in the years to come if I had another I couldn’t afford them both.
Living is so expensive now and I just worry.

Am I being logical? Or do I go ahead with my second child and figure it all out and know everything always works out somehow. Is it selfish of me to want another one when I have this worry in the back of my mind?

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No one told me pregnancy would feel this lonely…

I’m 21 and currently 21weeks pregnant. It was a big shock finding out as I was told I couldn’t have kids due to pcos and not ovulating.

I was always the loud and out going party girl but now everything’s changed…. My friends have stopped inviting me out as I guess it’s not that much fun hanging out with a pregnant girl and even when I have managed to make some plans with a couple friends I’m so anxious they’ll find me boring now that I back out.

My partner works 5days a week morning till late evening and on his days of he wants to see his friends sometimes which obviously I want as it’s good he’s keeping his social life but I’m also kind of jealous. Is anyone else feeling like this ? I just feel like I’m not experiencing the magical pregnancy everyone describes….