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I am now 2 and a half months PP, and I was just looking at my scar. It feels so surreal to me. I had to have an emergency C-Section after 20 hours of labor and an induction that worked too fast. It's so strange to me that this scar is on my body, that it's where my baby came out of. Everything was completely the opposite of my original birth plan, but I could not be more thankful that they caught the reason for my c-section when they did. That still doesnt change the... almost impostor syndrome I feel when I look at my body and my scar. I've changed so much, it's so strange to me

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You’re really not alone in feeling like this. Your body went through something so intense, and it makes sense it still feels kind of surreal…especially when nothing went how you planned. But your body still did something incredible, even if it looks and feels different right now. Be gentle with yourself 🤍 it’s okay if it takes time to feel like you again.

Absolutely not alone. I went through 27 hours of labor and pushed for about 30 minutes before needing an emergency C-section for preeclampsia and HELLP, was not at all in my realm of possibilities as I had no symptoms prior to labor! I'm 17 months pp and still double take seeing my scar sometimes. It's a weird trauma to process, because I'm SO grateful that my son and I made it out of delivery alive- but it was not at all the experience I expected after a completely uncomplicated pregnancy. Therapy helped me tremendously and I highly recommend it!

I’ve had 3 c sections and most likely 4. With this one. Us women are so strong our bodies are amazing ! Hearing your guys stories makes me realize that our bodies are powerful 🩷 we really did that 🥹

Completely valid to feel a bit weird about it! On the one hand, my section saved my baby's life, on the other hand it wasn't what I wanted and left me feeling like I had failed in some way. If you can, I would really recommend therapy. I'm still not 100% of the way there but talking to a professional really helped. You went through something huge and pretty scary because it was the best thing you could do for your baby. You went through mega hard recovery while looking after a newborn. And you'll have that scar to prove just how tough a mum you are

It’s a weird one cause I’ve had two sections and my scar has vanished now, but I miss it. I liked seeing that red line and knowing that I did that, I went through that for them.

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I'm not sure if anyone can really give me advice here, but I'm gonna lay out what's gone on and how I'm feeling and other factors.

So my partner and I found out I was pregnant early on into the relationship (back in 2024), and at the start of this year we had a massive talk where I said I feel like it's got alot to do with the current distance and tension between us. It was something I was worried about initially.

Now by distance and tension, I'm on about the slow decline we have gone through. It started about my 3rd trimester, and him and I both agreed alot was to do with my mental health as someone with severe C-PTSD and a disability that stems from it. This is something I have been actively working on getting help for. We also agreed that he had faults too, and overall it became a bad cycle of us both feeling like the other wasn't doing enough, and negative emotions building up against eachother. Alot of it was to do with me feeling him start to decline In the ways he showed love. I could feel his positivity draining almost, and he would never talk about it. Always said his mental health wasn't the best and shut it down.

This was through postpartum, all of 2025, we finally discussed it at the start of 2026, but it was along the lines of "we can't carry on like this, and we both have felt clocked out of this relationship, but we don't want to end the relationship because we still love eachother and want the same things".
So we agreed to start actively communicating, trying to make changes because we want to get back to what we were.

But I can not stop stressing, and thinking about how much my other half brought up how he's got everything figured out for if we end things. He was very clear on saying that he had clocked out to the point of not hating the idea of co-parenting, and even started taking about us salvaging things after a break up, it was alot. Really confusing. And just felt like he was trying to end things right there. But when I asked him if that's what he wanted he told me he will never be the one to end the relationship...

Now, its been a couple months, he expressed his poor mental health, I advised he go see a therapist and even offered to help him with this process. I've picked up where I need to, I've started getting more help, recently I've taken on most of the housework after studies too. And he seems happier, keeps telling me things are better but now I'm the one feeling like it's never going to change. He still hasn't started the process of getting help after promising me he would, I told him its integral to this relationship. That I'm stepping out of my comfort zone time and time again for the sake of him, us and our son, and I expect the same from him. There's also little things I brought up that mattered to me that he just isn't doing, whereas everything he brought to me I have taken on board and apply daily.

I can't tell if it's the poorer side of my mental health being as negative as it always is, or if after the conversation and some other things he has told me, I've started to lose the want to mend things. Its gnawing at me, I feel like we have switched roles and I just don't know what to do. I'm waiting on therapy to get back to me with my appointment dates. I'm waiting on the consultation for medication, and I'm putting 110% into this relationship whilst I feel like he's doing less. And I know physical appearance isn't something that should matter so much, but I've been really looking after myself, putting in the effort not just for him but for me, yet I'm watching him let go of himself. Which yeah, mental illness does that to a person, but as I mentioned he's not doing anything to help himself. There is only so much I can do.

Most of me feels like it's my fault. That in trying to heal whilst in an active relationship and post-partum I've caused all of this. But a small part of me feels like that's an unfair take.

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I’ve had him laying on my T-shirt in his next to me crib and it will only work for an hour or two. I went for a 2/3 hour walk in the park the other day and he slept through it all and as soon as I got home he was awake and screaming at me.

He seems to like the buggy and car seat when we’re out and when we’re home only my bed, the sofa or my arms will do the trick 😭😭😭.

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