No kissing

Never :)

It wasn’t really a conscious decision, but I think about the 9 month mark where he was crawling and putting toys in his mouth at play group, and kissing his other baby friends of his own accord that I started to be more relaxed about it, you can’t protect them from germs at that point because they’re touching & putting everything in their mouth, where you like it or not!

Never. For me it isnt just about "big germs", it's about herpies and also drawing that hard line in the sand with grown people being that level of affectionate with my son. They can live with a hug. If anyone gets that offended over not being allowed to put their lips on someone else's little kid 🤷🏽‍♀️ I am much more strict with that sort of thing than some people would like because of my own past, but I have zero problems being loud and proud of the boundaries I set for my little boy. There will be no gray areas where the occasional dirtbag can try to slip through the cracks with the defense of "just being affectionate" lol

Well. The one grandparent who suffers from cold sores: never!!!!!
You don't want your little one have severe damages from that cause they are not protected from it, their immune system is not strong enough.
The other one who brought your little one into hospital: not in the near future either. If they complain, tell/ ask them if they want to put your little one into the hospital again and how often do they plan on putting little one into hospitals by insisting on kissing her?!?!

Keep in mind and they should too:
It's not about them and their ego, their demands, their selfish behaviour!! That doesn't matter at all!!!
It's about your little one and keeping her safe and healthy. Yes, you can't protect her from everything and she'll get in touch with germs, fair enough. But you can try your best to keep her away from calculated risks like them.

Is this maternal or paternal grandparents?
Also the reasons you stated are more than enough for only parents to kiss baby

Never, nobody has a reason to kiss a child that isn’t theirs. Being family is no exception.

I don’t think it’s unfair for you to hold a rule on the family member with cold sores forever. As far as the rest of it, i’d just go with your gut. Once they’re getting dirty and trying to eat toys it will probably feel less dangerous to allow a kiss on the forehead. I don’t think I’ll ever allow family members to kiss my kid on the lips.

How about kissing only on the back of the head/hair after an age you feel comfortable? (None before)
(And for the one grandparent: same back of head, but only if there are absolutely no cold sores present..)

Never. My baby is nos 2.5 and everyone is used to it.

Omg, my in laws keep saying they can't wait to kiss my girl, she is only 3 months but my husband wants to allow people to kiss her now that she had her first vaccines. He thinks she needs to "build immunity naturally" how they did back in the day, when everyone held and kissed everyone's kids.

I absolutely hate it but he will not back down from it. And I keep saying no, so now he says that his family finds me stand off ish since I'm naturally quiet and now I am trying to keep my baby safe.

My son is 19 months and I just started being chill about it if he wants to kiss his gma or gpa I let it happen but if he doesn’t I don’t force him & my parents and inlaws are old so I don’t have to worry about stds or anything like that but I never let anyone else in the family kiss him

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In that case my reply would also be never 👍

Never 😅

Me and my partner started letting people just before or just after our daughters 1St injections