Would it bother you? Hubby never finishes.

Occasionally my husband doesn’t finish as he gets tired, and it BOTHERS me so much. Makes me feel unattractive, not good enough, etc. & he is very reassuring and if/when that happens we usually do it later in the day or another day soon after and he will, and make it up to me. but that only happens once in a blue moon, I couldn’t imagine it happening often. I’m sorry you’re going through this :(

Sounds like this was even an issue 12 years ago? Maybe something medically going on?

Does he masturbate a lot? Sometimes they can only finish with their hand and they might have a bit of a iron grip. Or perhaps he's got an interest , kink or he's into a type of porn he's not opened up about yet and he needs that to finish. How open are you to talking about that sort of thing?

I’m an overthinker, if my husband takes longer than 10 minutes I’m upset 🥲 … i don’t think it would be anything to do with you so I hope you don’t over think!! its one of them things some guys do struggle with this. I wonder if self pleasure can affect it? Anyways I would talk with him to get some reassurance and also make sure he isn’t masterbating as that would be affecting your sex life ! That’s just my opinion , it may not be the right thing to say 😅🩷

You could have my problem lol

I never orgasm’d because my husband is done in a minute or less 😂😭🤷🏼‍♀️

I’ve been told men last long if they have it regularly

I would feel some type of way for sure. I had an ex that we would go for hours.. and I hated it. Turns out he watched alot of porn so it made it hard for him to get off fast. Thats just my experience. 🫠

One of my exes struggled with finishing due to his anti depressants. I always hated it.

This would bother me without context, but seeing your comments it sounds like your husband is really awesome and reassuring and I’m like him in the opposite way like I can’t finish often during the sticking but I almost always do during the licking it’s a psychological thing for me too 😭 if I were in your position I wouldn’t let it get to me 🩷 sounds like you love and satisfy each other very much! It might not be normal, but it’s also not BAD either 🤷🏾‍♀️

My husbands on a high dose of antidepressants which makes it hard for him to come. He has managed it 98% of the time so far. He used to cum before me now I cum before him. Its very weird.

My child’s father has this issue. He was like that with me and reports the same with other women. It used to get on my nerves when he insisted it was normal, but he acknowledges now it’s psychological. He said it started after he came out of a long term relationship and got in his head that he would ejaculate too soon with a new partner, and so that led to him putting too much pressure on himself and from there it became a thing. He struggles with anxiety and is an overthinker.

Is he on any medications?
My hubs basically doesn’t know what a quickie is, he also enjoys lots of foreplay, the more I get turned on the more he gets turned on, kinda thing, but he’s been put on a few different medications over our 13.5yrs together that have made him last so long that he’s just like I had fun but can’t keep going & if I do you’ll probably hate me tomorrow. Lol

I reckon it’s better than the alternative 😭

Does he watch porn? Sometimes that can cause issues. Esp if it’s an addiction. Not a cussing just figured I’d mention. My friends ex was like that.

Yeah this would bother me too! Especially if he said he’s tired 🙄 I want to say this isn’t normal not in my head anyways.. like something else must be going on inside as men get so excited it’s normally the opposite for most people 🤣🤣

It would make me feel a bit miffed but it really isnt his fault. I take ages to finish too, its something that's annoyed me about myself for a long time but, i cant help it so id be bummed if my partner made a problem out of it.

I mean is he the one on top or hitting it from the back? Do you ride ?

My husband also takes a long time and many times i get tired before he finnishes, im talking about a minimum of 40 minutes.
When i brought it up he sais its because he enjoys it so much that he holds it so we can keep at it, and then its hard for him to get there again when he held it. We have been having shorter sex and he usually finnishes now. Maybe your husband is also holding it for the sale of the sex?

It would bother me but I’d also know I was likely overthinking it. Health conditions, depression, and antidepressants can also make sex challenging including reaching climax. If you both feel satisfied, I’d try to not let it get to me.