So my due date is in 10 days but obvs we don’t know when the baby will actually come. Anyway, my SIL is also pregnant (after 10 years of infertility) and I am so happy for her when I found out because the doctors had said they may never conceive. So she has her gender reveal on the 26th of April (which would be almost 2 weeks after due date) in either case I wouldn’t feel comfortable attending while newly postpartum and with a newborn baby where there will be lots of people I don’t even know, I said to my husband he should go just with my daughter, which he agreed but mentioned she might feel a certain way. I mean she needs to sort of be understandable, I just don’t want to put my baby at risk, and after I gave birth last time I made myself very unwell thinking I’m okay to go out and about earlier than I should. On top of this, she shouldn’t feel a certain way because in our culture it is crucial for the mum and baby to not leave the house for 40 days, and she knows this. Anyway I don’t think I’m being an Asshole, I just don’t want to put my baby at risk and especially because people from my country don’t know boundaries when it comes to babies (kissing them, holding them, passing them around)
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Nooooo you are so right, if you don’t want to go and don’t feel comfortable do not go! Who cares if she feels a type of way, she will come around. The most important thing is making sure you feel comfortable so does your newborn. Boundaries are so important and if people cannot accept them that is their problem, no one is entitled to being in your’s and baby’s presence. Take your time, recover and do things in your own time. Your partner will understand and should respect your wishes. You do you! Xx

Id stay home and rest, you can always video call to say congratulations and whatever I'm sure she will understand and if she doesn't that's her problem X

I wouldn’t worry about it! Is she likely to have a baby shower later that you could attend? I will just give your apologies and say you will be there for her when you can xx