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Teen mums or young mums

When did you feel ready to have another?

I have a 15 month old baby girl! She is genuinely the definition of a unicorn baby! She slept through the night from 8 weeks old, she has a happy and content wee spirit! She is very rarely crabby as in when she is tired shes cuddly not grumpy, her teeth came in and she just dealt with it! No crying or illnesses or behavioural changes! She didn’t even have a single sleep regression😩She is honestly just full of fun and love and I feel like she has taken all my worries of becoming a mum away! We always joke shes giving us a false sense of security🤣🤣

Anyways, I have been so broody recently! Like constantly thinking about having a second baby and talking with my partner about it. We always said we didn’t want bigger age gaps between kids. 2-3 years was the plan before we had her younger. I was 19 when I had her, he was 21! Therefore, I am now turning 21 and he is turning 23.

As younger parents who didn’t expect to have kids so young, we don’t know how to plan when we have a second baby. We spoke about how it would be nice to have a second next year. We are saving to buy a house (currently renting) and would be buying a house within the next 2 years for extra deposit saving purposes. We have a lovely 2 bedroom house rented from family which means it’s secure in terms of rent. He works a great job and I am graduating in the summer alongside working 30 hours a week in between uni and mummy duties. We are financially due to be in a great place after summer and desperate to give our daughter a sibling.

But we still feel our age will somehow bring judgement I guess or maybe we should enjoy us as a family of three more? But we both come from big families and I have siblings close in age, 4 years from myself to my youngest sibling. My partner however has huge age gaps between himself and his 2 oldest siblings and his youngest. His oldest being 46 and his youngest being 7!!! He has always hated it and wanted to have kids close in age. We don’t want her daughter to miss out in the bond siblings have when they are closer in age but I understand it’s not as easy as just that!

My expectations are not that the next baby is going to be like my first! I know we lucked out and are most likely going to have a troublemaker🤣🤣 I know it will be tougher but I just adore being a mum and love all the fun that comes with it! My daughter loves all our friend’s kids and her cousins and I just know she would be an amazing big sister!!

Has anyone else been through this battle and got some advice to share?