Induction

I’m 35-3days and I’m really done. Everything is healthy with baby apart from myself. I have been super poorly recently that I ended in triage and now need an iron transfusion, I’m not sleeping due to pain, hips, acid reflux, constantly peeing whatever and I’m so fed up of people saying “that’s pregnancy for you” like a brush it off kind of thing.

I’m mentally struggling as well as physically and I have not had the best pregnancy. I want her out NOW, I’m even having thoughts of regret and wishing I never got pregnant to begin with (this was a planned pregnancy), I’m so afraid. My midwife already knows my mental health isn’t the greatest at the moment and has referred me to a mental health team which specialises with pregnant mums to be but they said they needed more information about me and my midwife reckons they’ll decline my care and tell me to go back to my GP (not great, I don’t want to go on medication and that’s exactly all they will give me other than advice to speak to Samaritans lol).

I feel I sound ungrateful but I just don’t want to do this anymore, I don’t even want to be here, I’d never act on it but Christ how do people enjoy this?? I applaud you.

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Sleep!!

Our little girl at 10 weeks just slept from 730pm to 430am. She fell asleep on her dad and in bringing her upstairs at 10pm she was still fast asleep so decided as she was fed just before that to leave her until she stirs. She’s usually a good sleeper on the first stint of the night with atleast 6/7 hours but tonight she’s gone 9! Besides a little leakage as I’m exclusively breastfeeding I have no concerns. Would this one off affect my milk supply? For context when she woke she fed for 10 mins which is average for her and was content/ didn’t seem to be struggling.

Constant crying in the mornings

I need help I'm literally losing my mind with my 16 month old I literally don't know what to do I'm physically going crazy I feel like I can't do this anymore I suffer from fibremielga and cfs and my life is so so hard and it just feels like it continues to get harder I know what she's crying for but I comfort her and give her what she's crying for just to shut her up and she still continues to cry my older boys was not like this and people say it's girls but that doesn't help me the pressure on my chest is like a elephant sitting on me I have no friends or family so no help so here I am.

Sex

Has anyone else not done the deed after giving birth yet?

I am 13 weekspp and feeling guilty for not spending 'quality' time with my partner. He's been very supportive and that it's just I feel so tired at the end of the day I just don't have anything left in me.

We also have a 3 year old and I do the housework and I also exclusively pump so any free time I have gets taken up. My 13 weeks old girl doesn't like being held by anyone else apart from me or my partner so handing them off for a few hours wouldn't work she also contact naps during the day which is fine as she sleeps through the night in her cot. Once they go to sleep I'm in the kitchen washing up bottles and preparing for my last pump of the day and MOTN pump I don't usually end up going to bed until 11:30pm.

Cleaning girls privates

My baby is 3 months old, I noticed she was red in between her lady parts. Which would make sense as to why she didn’t want to be sat and kept straightening up her body ☹️ I cleaned with warm water and sudocream.

Mammas with girls, what’s the best wipes? Or do you just use warm water and a cotton pad? How do I keep her little area red free? Does she need a bigger size nappy also? Any advice welcome!

Footless pajamas

Why do sleepers become footless at 12 months?! Do they really regulate body better? Are you still putting them in sleep sacks? Using socks? Or giving a blanket? ((Room ranges in the 70s))

Milk

I gave birth March 15th and my milk has come in but isn't leaking out, will it leak out at any point or is it too late?