Sex

Has anyone else not done the deed after giving birth yet?

I am 13 weekspp and feeling guilty for not spending 'quality' time with my partner. He's been very supportive and that it's just I feel so tired at the end of the day I just don't have anything left in me.

We also have a 3 year old and I do the housework and I also exclusively pump so any free time I have gets taken up. My 13 weeks old girl doesn't like being held by anyone else apart from me or my partner so handing them off for a few hours wouldn't work she also contact naps during the day which is fine as she sleeps through the night in her cot. Once they go to sleep I'm in the kitchen washing up bottles and preparing for my last pump of the day and MOTN pump I don't usually end up going to bed until 11:30pm.

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We haven't and not in the mood this time I'm so exhausted with a 10 year old, 2 year old and a 10 week old. This time managing to successfully breastfeed/pump so constantly feeding or pumping.
Im the one doing all the cooking, cleaning and looking after the kids too so when they are asleep I fall asleep on the sofa.

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Nope and nope and nope 🤣 not even interested.

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No and can’t see it happening any time soon 😅

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Not since I got pregnant and not now 13 weeks PP🤣not risking pregnancy thank youuu🤣🤣🤣

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No no no not an option!!! Last thing I want 🫣

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Me neither. Also 13 weeks pp and we only have one child… and even though my bf helps a lot and I am not as exhausted as some of you guys. I still don’t feel like doing it - still in the process of accepting my new body and our new life. And also feel bad for not wanting it

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I’m 12 weeks postpartum and we’ve only had sex twice. I had a C section and it was so uncomfortable, honestly worse than the first time I ever had sex.

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I did at 5w PP would have before if my partner wasn’t worried about it being painful for me and a few times since but haven’t found the time or want in over a month now. I was lucky with a vaginal birth and no ‘damage’ down there I will say that much tho. It will return in time but every recovery and relationship are different!

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nope not yet! almost 12 weeks pp and honestly i haven’t even thought about it once. i have an almost 3 year old tornado who doesn’t stop and i’m exclusively breastfeeding. if im not sorting either of the boys im doing food or tidying the house! i rhink im also partly scared to this time round as i found it so uncomfortable the first time after having my first baby

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