I worry about my age

I’m 39 and have a 4yo and am 33 weeks with my second. I’ll be 40 in September. And honestly, I’m kinda sad about it. I wish I’d started having babies earlier. I worry that when this baby turns 20, I’ll be 60. My parents are in their 60s now and they’re getting so much joy from being with their grandkids and I’m worried I’m not going to be too old to really enjoy them.

I love my husband, but sometimes I wish we’d found each other sooner and had babies earlier. IDK. I’m just feeling sad about the passage of time.

This will be a topic at my next therapy session lol

Thanks for letting me vent.

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Interesting. Im same age and never thought about grandkids. Maybe just focus on the now and enjoying motherhood and getting them to adulthood. Later will take care of later.

I am not 40 yet but I can sympathize with what you’re feeling. I just had my first and she is turning 6 mo. My partner is developing his second career and it will be a few years before we’re more stable with that. Due to this we will probably move around and not have as much help so we’re holding off on a second for now but I fear even still by the time we do I’ll be 39 (currently just turned 37) and I think about all those same things. I also would never pressure my children to do things faster in life, when I clearly didn’t, but I hope I am around for that part of their life.

I know.. i wish it was backwards
Having kids as soon as you hit puberty when you have soooo much energy and you already don't sleep at night grow up together then do a job you like
Why the current situation keep pushing towards no no me me me first .. isn't this part of enjoy life? Having kids and a happy family.. you can always study with or without kids i have never stopped study since i remember.. i got my dream job and got to the top i was the head of my department thank God .. the highest salary but nothing is like the joy i get from being with my family .. i thank God always for everything i have .. but if i could do it again i would marry my husband as soon as we met and by now we would be having grandkids and i would be searching for a job to share my intellectual experience in addition to the experience from having a family.. no book can teach you that as much as i have read nth prepare you for this ..
Thank you for sharing these thoughts 😘😘

I am 37. Currently 23weeks for my second. I have a 4yr old who will be 5 by the time I have my second.

The truth is, this is an unplanned pregnancy and I've been everything but worried. It's my fourth pregnancy for a second child. My body is tired in all spheres but I'm just trying to hang in there while I embrace each stage with these little ones as it comes.

I'm not going to worry about what life would be like in 20-30yrs from now.

So mama, I'd say live and enjoy the moment.

Time waits for no one.

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