potty training!

i want to start potty training our daughter, she’s 16 months old. i saw somewhere that waiting till they’re ready is key but when exactly would i know that’s she’s ready? do i start her on the toilet with a baby seat or get a little potty? we’re in the process of building our home to move out of my parents house, would it be better to wait to start till we’re moved in? i also saw that telling them “it’s okay” when having an accident is not recommended, what should i say instead? please help my parents don’t remember hahahaha

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When they start hiding for a poo and telling you they've had a poo or wee is usually a good sign they're ready. Thing about accidents is to not make a big deal about it. My little girl is 2 in a few weeks and still not 100% ready. They're all ready at different times and thats ok

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It’s actually better to start early, at least before 18m. Signs of readiness wasn’t a thing before disposals were invented most kids were trained before 1 until then. There’s a lot of different methods can research & see what fits your family situation best

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For me, I waited until she could walk, able to sign potty, and had some level of interest in the little potty (basically she noticed it and wanted to sit). I highly recommend a little potty especially at the age you're starting. With a big move like that, I'd wait till after the move. Any major changes can stress out a child and make it difficult to potty train or they might regress. Starting that early you have to accept they will have accidents. My daughter was potty trained at 20 months and she had weekly accidents for probably 6 months? 99% of the accidents were at home where she was relaxed or too distracted and I also forgot to prompt her. Major changes also caused issues. Illness, sibling being born, she regressed a lot. The more nonchalant you are, the better the result. They can feel your frustration and it's not going to work out well if you take it out on them. For accidents, I just say "Ope! You missed. Let's get to the potty next time." That's all. Name the action, name the solution, let it go.

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Adding that night potty training can be hard. Some aren't developmentally ready to hold their bladder all night till after 3 years old so I didn't bother with it. She started staying dry in her diapers overnight and that's when we started encouraging her to try without her diapers. One night she just put underwear on after her bath instead of the diaper and that was that. Never looked back. That was 3/14 (a month ago) and she's turning 3 in 1 week. Surprisingly we haven't had any bed accidents yet either 🙏

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We did the Lora Jensen method (ebook is online). Our daughter was about a month before she turned 2. We followed the method exactly and she was fully trained in 2 weeks and could go out in public including night time. She had been wanting to use the toilet since she was like a year old. Highly recommend. Only had one night time accident but once we stopped liquids by 4pm (still offer a small amount of milk with dinner) she was completely fine.

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