I don’t feel like my husband challenges me, I can almost never have a stimulating conversation with him, we married young 10 years ago when we were both naive but deeply in love

I feel like since then I’ve grown so much and he’s nearly stayed the same, so I guess I’m the problem since I’m the one who changed our dynamic but Ive slowly become more and more attracted to intelligence and my husband is kind and hard working but he is satisfied being mentally stagnant and it’s making me freak out, there has to be more. With the state of our country and the world, I like discussing politics, ideologies, cultural and social norms and things like that. I genuinely love learning and being challenged. He likes playing video games. He’s also objectively attractive by beauty standards, muscular build, full head of hair and beard. I recognize he’s attractive but I am not attracted to him anymore because I don’t find him interesting or smart. I know I sound like an extreme asshole but that’s the truth, is there any hope? Does anyone else feel similar?

in our community

Long trip?

Hey , we’re going on holiday to the coast 3.5 hrs away in a couple months and my 2 year old is toilet trained but wears pull ups at nap and bed time. Sometimes she will do a little dribble in her pants on her way to the loo but generally she does well
My concern is the road trip, do I put her in a pull ups at or hope that she can hold out till we stop?
It’s going to be tricky washing and drying the car seat on holiday so I’m wondering what other people do, I’m worried the pull up for the car might confuse her!

Toys at grandparents home

Just wondering if Im being weird about this?
My MIL lives about 15 mins away I take our daughter there quite a bit, she has nothing kid friendly at her house so I asked her to get a couple toys that can live there so I dont have to bring toys every time we go over...she said yeah yeah and thats shes ordered some stuff on amazon. Turns out what she ordered was just table corner protectors, no toys or anything. So I asked again and she said that our baby doesnt need toys, she will just find things about the house to occupy herself like the tv remote.
I get it but at the same time if I thought like that then my child would be playing with wires, keys, my phone, batteries ect and not baby friendly things at my home so it doesnt make sense to me? She needs age appropriate toys. I take her there at least once a week, sometimes more... so its a lot for me to take everythint all the time, I bring the baby, all her nappies, spare clothes ect plus toys, things for her to eat ect. All im asking for are a fee toys that live at their house.
I know I could leave my own toys there but she complained about me 'not letting her be grandma' when our daughter was first born because I wanted to recover at home for a week and when we did visit I wanted to hold my baby more than she expected. So now Im like.... you wanted to be grandma, im asking you to help me out as grandma and buy your granddaughter a couple of toys for your house and you wont do it?
Ive ended up leaving a walker and a couple toys there and a couple spoons and a bowl . She has the walker behind the sofa and doesn't get it out when we do go round or anything Ive left. So I feel like I have to still bring toys there.
My dad lives 2 hours away, we've gone to visit 3 times since our daughter was born and hes bought toys and a high chair for her and bowls and spoons for her and I didnt even ask him to.
So me asking grandma who lives 15 mins away to buy a couple toys to make things easier for me and she wont doesnt sit right with me at all? Am I wrong. I
And I do bring toys from our house to grandma's everytime we go but theyre toys my daughter likes the most that week so im not going to leave them there. I left a couple bits but what Im asking is for her to get some as well so lighten my load.

How would you interpret the phrase “at times, it appears they are working together in ways that are unsafe for others.”

In reference to a set of 4.5 year old twins, in an email from their teachers (the first time they’ve reached out about any type of physical incident with another child).

Do you think the teachers mean the twins are teaming up to intentionally be “unsafe” to others?

potty training!

i want to start potty training our daughter, she’s 16 months old. i saw somewhere that waiting till they’re ready is key but when exactly would i know that’s she’s ready? do i start her on the toilet with a baby seat or get a little potty? we’re in the process of building our home to move out of my parents house, would it be better to wait to start till we’re moved in? i also saw that telling them “it’s okay” when having an accident is not recommended, what should i say instead? please help my parents don’t remember hahahaha