Distracted feeding.

How is everyone dealing with distracted feeding?? My little man is 3 and a half months and used to eat so well. Now it can take him an hour just to eat four ozs. He absolutely wants it but, continuously pushes it out of his mouth and then gets mad or sometimes he just keeps it in his mouth and doesn't drink at all. Its so damn frustrating. Does anyone have any tips to help him stop doing it?

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Don’t be this friend

I need to vent! I made lunch plans with a childless (important I think) friend, drove 35 min away with a toddler only for them to cancel last min. No worries I adjusted and had fun with my toddler. I get home from the day and the same friend asked if they could come by my house to say hi instead. They came that evening, I had only about two hours notice. Two hours where I took care of my kid, made dinner, ate dinner, finished laundry from that morning, cleaned up toddlers toys and vacuumed. I tried my best last minute to get the house “presentable”. We are not dirty people, but I also wasn’t prepared to host visitors so our house was very “lived in”. Including the dishes from the last 3-4 MEALS in my sink. We hadn’t emptied the dishwasher yet, but all the dishes in the sink were rinsed and ready to be loaded. You know how it is sometimes, in order to stay on top of everything, sometimes one chore sits on the back burner. We didn’t do the dishes last night, and I hadn’t gotten to them yet today.
Point is, it wasn’t dirty, but maybe maybe messy with the sink of stacked dishes.
I wasn’t feeding them a meal, they were “just popping by”
This person lives alone, no pets, no significant other, no kids. Super strict routine, and a large need for control in their own life.
Their apartment always looks like a staged home to me. Wonderful for them, genuinely so happy for them that they can do that.
I am pregnant, have a three year old, and a husband who works 15 hour days. We manage our best and I think we’re doing pretty dang good for our situation.

This friend of mine was kind during their visit. But when I asked what they did that day they listed their activities they did, but then said “I did my dishes. That was fun. Doing dishes is fun” and then darted their eyes to my sink of dishes and started laughing.
I chuckled and didn’t say anything further. I was happy to see my friend and knew I was probably being too emotional.

But I’m sorry, just don’t be this person. It’s not hard.
I spent over an hour on the road with my toddler that morning to see them, they canceled, then asked with only 2 hours heads up to come to my home so they could see me. But then you outwardly joke about the state of my home?
Maybe I’m being too sensitive. Maybe it’s pregnancy hormones.
But it made me feel terrible and embarrassed just because I fell behind on a chore in my own home.
I would never make a joke like that in someone’s home. If I come to your house, I don’t care what it looks like. I’m not there to judge, I’m there to see my friend.
Inviting yourself to someone’s home after standing them up earlier in the day, to then “jokingly” judging the cleanliness of their home, feels like rude behavior.
But again maybe I’m just too pregnant for this.

Vent over.
If I’m in the wrong please dont hesitate to tell me, but be nice please

PPD and betrayal

My husband told my sister in law and her wife about my post partum and intrusive thoughts. She said she’s a mandated reporter and threatened to call on me if he didn’t get me help. Here’s the thing, I already received help and am feeling great. I feel betrayed by my husband. I trusted him telling him my thoughts a couple weeks ago and he went and took it outside of our home. I’m pissed at her that instead of calling me or offering assistance her first thought was to report me. I feel so betrayed. I didn’t know any of this was going on until my mother in law called me today asking if I was ok and then explaining why.

Hands and privates

Silly question maybe but is it common for boys to hold their privates when naked? My son has just started doing this at night only when having a shower. Wont let go of it until his nappy is on, then he's not bothered. He's not yet toilet trained although shows a little interest but only at night when he's in the bathroom getting ready for a shower. I've tried to ask him to remove his hands and he gets upset so not sure why he's doing it or if it's just a development thing. He's only 2.

Anyone else frustrated at their partner?

Is anyone else getting agitated by their other half's unawareness of being a parent? Don't get me wrong, he's a great dad to our 4 month old, but I don't think he realises how much I do compared to him. Admittedly, he goes to work (9 to 5 three days a week and 9 to 7 twice a week). I do the cooking, cleaning and ironing; his only chores are clothes washing (which I sometimes do anyway) and bdoing the dishes after dinner (after I've cooked and cleaned most of them!) I feel like I do everything for the baby. I'm exclusively breast feeding, so I know he can't help with that. But he probably changes 1 or 2 nappies a day. And he thinks playing with the baby for 30mins whilst I make dinner or get a bath going, is helping me?! He goes to the gym every morning before work, so doesn't help at all with the morning routine. He doesn't help when it comes to going out for whatever reason- like he's almost oblivious to what I've done in terms of packing the bag, sorting outfits out for the next morning, making sure nappies/wipes etc are topped up. I dont think he even knows how to steralise! And when he does "help out", he'll do half a job. For example, if he does the bath, he'll leave the bath toys and bath seat in the tub. Or if he changes the baby before bed, he'll leave the nappy sack & old dummy on the side.
I've tried speaking to him about it, and his response is, "well I do more than most dads!" and "I could go out every Friday like XYZ and get drunk, but I don't."
Don't get me wrong, he puts our baby first and will play with him when he's home, but I just feel very frustrated at the situation! Is anyone else feeling the same??
*rant over* 😅

So is divorce the solution ?

I’m not the same women my husband married and I don’t see myself being her ever again. If I would have known before…. How much I would change… I probably would have put more thought into getting pregnant and having a baby and not done it. However we are here now and I absolutely love my baby more than anything. I feel my husband lost his wife he married as I don’t even recognize myself anymore. I see our sex life is gone and I don’t feel as free to do much anything other than being a mom. I’m not managing week I’m coping as best I can with the huge adjustment and it make me want to just raise my child without having the pressure of being married… I cannot beg ive my husband what he needs and wants and frankly he can’t give me what I want sis just too much. Regardless I have fallen more in love with him I’m just disappointed we can no longer have the lifestyle we had before it’s not sustainable for me as a mother.

Partner not a clue?

Anyone else’s partner just not understand babies? This is our second and I don’t remember him being like this with our first. But our 6 week old won’t settle with him at all since he went back to work a week after he was born. My partner constantly gets angry and annoyed that our baby is “too attached to his mother” and that he should just be able to sleep in his Moses basket without needing to be held or walked around and that our 4 year old should also just be able to go to sleep on his own. He always talks to them but like he’s blaming me while talking to them like I’ve made them want me more than him and it’s honestly starting to get to me. He wants them both to act like they’re teenagers and not a newborn or young child! I’m breastfeeding alongside formula this time and he gets mad that the baby keeps trying to shuffle down to ‘his boob’ to find comfort and will shout out that he doesn’t have one like it’ll make a difference 🙄 he even said that i need to choose between boob or bottle because it’s harder on him to settle the baby but I would’ve thought being able to give a bottle too should’ve helped him bond, but he only does a feed once every couple of days anyway