Angry & sad

I’m 3 months post partum & absolutely adore my little boy. I have the most wonderful supportive partner but I am constantly angry at him & feeling sorry for myself.
I know it’s normal in a way, but sometimes I am just so upset and get angry so easily.
I just feel resentful that he can sit and have him time when I am just not getting the chance
Please tell me this will pass as I’m hating myself being like this

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Can't tell you it will pass as only 3 month's pp myself but what you are feeling is very,very normal. Men dont have the gut instinct/feeling intuition towards baby and almost need to ge told. Its tiresome but over time you will both adjust and find a middle ground. Talk to him about how your feeling and that you also need you time and when you want that and im hopeful things will improve. Keep your chin up your doing a great job x

I think it’s normal as it’s a shock to the system how much your time is no longer yours etc.
but I say that be intentional about carving out time for you. Even if it’s a long soak in the bath once a week or sitting at a coffee shop without baby for a hot drink.
Keep talking about your feelings so resentment doesn’t build.

I can only offer from my point of view but I had the some of the same feelings where I just didn't feel I was getting any kind of a real me time break and had a 'pumping is not a sit down relaxing break' (especially as an undersupplier) convo 🙈
Took a little time and a lot of very open emotional conversations over a few weeks, but we got to the other side and I'm now nearly 8 months pp and things are clicking into place nicely! Still have to guide him with what needs doing and when so that its actually a help and I can take a few hours here and there to switch off, but it's got so much better and really helps ease some of the feelings.
Sometimes I think as the mums our brains just never fully switch off with all the little bits so our breaks look and feel very different to theirs, but hang in there its very normal! I still get the feelings from time to time, but on those days I just take each hour as it comes and see what the next hour brings and try to reset my mind for each one x

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