Feeding to sleep / nap

FTM here too and I am exactly the same as you. I have tried other alternatives but to no avail. It works for us.
My LO does self soothe in the night so she can do it, just not at bedtime.

I do this but sometimes he does come off and wants to be on my shoulder to kick about and eventually fall he’ll asleep that way

I'm still feeding to sleep at night time as nothing else works but results in multiple wakes to feed again to sleep so I'm one exhausted mama, also still taking 2 + hours to get him to bed..he will happily nap in his pram with dummy Ans a little pushing of the pram

We somehow managed to get into the eat play sleep routine in the day without realising it but I do feed him right before bed, whether he falls asleep on the bottle or not is pretty random