This our a few things my bf has problems with or thinks it’s okay way to teart me

My bf seems to think I should be able to run on empty if I want till late at night to do something I am in the wrong he thinks I should have the house spotless when he gets up I can’t have everything looking nice within only 3 hours of being awake I am not going to use my whole day up with cleaning I will do a few task a day with engery I won’t do it if I am empty I have our son to take care of on top of that so someone’s if I start a task if my son needs me I am going to drop what I am doing if if that means that now I am doing something at 3am instead of in the afternoon I don’t just jump out of bed and start my day like he does I am going to share my day with having as much relaxing time as I can and then I will do what I can as far as things that need done I am not required to only do the required I am allowed to be able to relax yes that makes things go slower and I also won’t clean the toys off the floor during the day I leave that for when the baby goes to bed if I can remember other wise they get dragged back out but in his eyes I am being lazy I am not doing eaugh I am a bad mom because the way I spend time with my son is from the couch I am a bad mom because I give my son something easy to make when I cook when I get up I am I bad mom because I can’t do everything to his expections and he’s thinks he’s above me he thinks he is the only one fulfilling the baby’s needs and I am contsenly battling not being able to leave the living room because if I do my son thinks I am leaving

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Sounds like he's not a good fit.

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If he’s not listening when you explain this to him, maybe you should take time away from him. If possible stay with family. Let him realize that you do a lot even if every single thing isn’t done. Let him try to do it all and see how he likes unrealistic expectations. Maybe have someone else explain it to him if he won’t hear it from you. Like a counselor or something. He is the problem here, not you. You should prioritize you and your son over your boyfriend’s wants. Because if we’re being honest, these are wants not needs. And you don’t always get what you want. I’m not sure if it’s baby wake up time, your preference, or something you feel like you have to do because of your bf, but if you don’t want to get up 3 hours earlier than him to do chores, you don’t have to. It seems like he expected nothing to change when you had a baby. But you are not a superhero, you can’t do it all. And he needs to understand that. If he can’t, it’s his problem to deal with, not yours.

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Also not sure from the context of the post, but does he help with household chores? If he doesn’t, he should. He should also be the one to make dinner at least once a week. You are not a maid. You are his partner and he needs to treat you with the same respect and care that you do for him.

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