This our a few things my bf has problems with or thinks it’s okay way to teart me

My bf seems to think I should be able to run on empty if I want till late at night to do something I am in the wrong he thinks I should have the house spotless when he gets up I can’t have everything looking nice within only 3 hours of being awake I am not going to use my whole day up with cleaning I will do a few task a day with engery I won’t do it if I am empty I have our son to take care of on top of that so someone’s if I start a task if my son needs me I am going to drop what I am doing if if that means that now I am doing something at 3am instead of in the afternoon I don’t just jump out of bed and start my day like he does I am going to share my day with having as much relaxing time as I can and then I will do what I can as far as things that need done I am not required to only do the required I am allowed to be able to relax yes that makes things go slower and I also won’t clean the toys off the floor during the day I leave that for when the baby goes to bed if I can remember other wise they get dragged back out but in his eyes I am being lazy I am not doing eaugh I am a bad mom because the way I spend time with my son is from the couch I am a bad mom because I give my son something easy to make when I cook when I get up I am I bad mom because I can’t do everything to his expections and he’s thinks he’s above me he thinks he is the only one fulfilling the baby’s needs and I am contsenly battling not being able to leave the living room because if I do my son thinks I am leaving

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Sounds like he's not a good fit.

If he’s not listening when you explain this to him, maybe you should take time away from him. If possible stay with family. Let him realize that you do a lot even if every single thing isn’t done. Let him try to do it all and see how he likes unrealistic expectations. Maybe have someone else explain it to him if he won’t hear it from you. Like a counselor or something. He is the problem here, not you. You should prioritize you and your son over your boyfriend’s wants. Because if we’re being honest, these are wants not needs. And you don’t always get what you want. I’m not sure if it’s baby wake up time, your preference, or something you feel like you have to do because of your bf, but if you don’t want to get up 3 hours earlier than him to do chores, you don’t have to. It seems like he expected nothing to change when you had a baby. But you are not a superhero, you can’t do it all. And he needs to understand that. If he can’t, it’s his problem to deal with, not yours.

Also not sure from the context of the post, but does he help with household chores? If he doesn’t, he should. He should also be the one to make dinner at least once a week. You are not a maid. You are his partner and he needs to treat you with the same respect and care that you do for him.

Im sorry you are going through a relationship where it seems like he doesnt sees you as his equal. Relationships are hard and it is even harder to be a mom. Plus he expects you to always have energy for everything. Maybe talking about your expectations of him as a father and partner could help. My husband used to think I was just sitting all day watching tv and that hurt me so much. Im very direct so the day he had off work I made a list of everything I do in one day. And he had to carry our baby everywhere even the restroom. And he couldnt ask for help. Just like I do it. He never has told me anything like that since that day and now he offers to help around the house or even with the baby. Sometimes we have to be direct and set strong boundaries.

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I can’t believe I’m writing this but here’s the story - my boyf said he’s invited his mum over this morning as he wants to see her and she wants to see our son who’s now 10 months.

I said cool , I’m recovering from a cold and said he’ll look after me today the best as he could. Which was nice to hear.

Anyway. I didn’t think much of her visit I just got on with my day , rested a bit more and did the never ending laundry after our trip away. I was in and out the kitchen chatting a bit but very low energy.

She then decided to leave at 3:30 but , my boyfriend keeps saying you don’t have to leave if you don’t want to. She said no it’s fine and the starts to cry!!

I could hear her saying no it’s fine please don’t worry I should go. I didn’t know if I should get involved so I just said bye and left them to talk.

When she’s left I’m not having an explosive argument with my BF because it was my fault , she didn’t feel welcomed and felt like she had to leave. I’m here shouting back at him couldn’t believe what I’m hearing. And just baffled with the whole situation.

I text her saying if there as something she wanted to talk about and here she is essay texting me that she knows when she’s not welcomed.

Myself and my bf are not speaking after such an argument , huge tension in the hosue and it’s all her fault. I have no words and I don’t know what to do.

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