Help I am so overwhelmed by my toddler.

My toddler cries constantly if we are home and I am not holding him or playing with him or he has my immediate attention. My husband tries so hard sometimes but I am so overwhelmed. I need to leave the room. A lot. Sometimes it turns into hours. I don't enjoy spending time with my son when hes that clingy. I also hate feeling like that. But hes heavy and I am small and I am exhausted and need a break. I am drowning. Baby will be 2 in June.

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I hear you, that’s a really hard age. My son was the same way, it was really helpful to put him in Occupational therapy and speech therapy. Message me and I can provide you with the info for free therapy’s !

I send you all my support, I understand you and please don't be hard on yourself. Try to find games that are much less tiring. And you know, at that age they have a lot of energy. If your baby has a particular favorite and enjoys playing alone, let them play. Take some time for yourself when you can.

It gets easier as they can do more and when they start to speak, you can reason with them. Till then, do low energy things like reading books with him, give him dry pasta to move between containers, let him play with sponges/dishes in a tub of water or in the sink. Let him help you make cookies. Sit and play magnatiles or leggos. And it’s also ok to go get your much needed alone time. Also, perhaps you need to do a general check up to make sure that nothing else is contributing to your tiredness.

Oh and make sure that he’s getting enough sleep! My toddler is always very clingy when he’s tired.

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Do you actually work hard for what you have or does your job just pay you more money?

On the topic of families becoming unable to afford groceries, someone said that they don't care about anyone struggling or hungry because they simply worked hard for the food they have.

Unless that person has a job in agriculture or food production then they didn't actually work hard for their groceries. They worked hard for a paycheck and used it to buy food. Other workers are the ones who created that food and provided it to the grocery stores for our convenience and accessibility.

Imagine if those workers just decided they didn't care about us anymore? You can't eat money.

Today my kids locked my bedroom door and closed it and I haven’t been able to open it, I held my baby above me to check his mouth and he vomited directly into my face, also my kids dad skipped the call again

I didn’t mention that the kids dad was supposed to call or not but my oldest asked what day it was, I said Sunday and he knows that’s the call day. Shortly after he knew it was Sunday he came behind me and punched me in the back and I asked what was going on if h had any feelings he wanted to talk about or if something was bothering him. He said no. Then he threw something at my head. I’m tryin to provide him with some reassurance and support and special connection. We’re gunna bake banana bread later.

But today’s f-ing hard. Wanna scream into the void.

Hey I just need help with what I'm going to do with my boyfriend

he’s not showing me attention anymore. He said he’s busy. He’s just not putting an effort anymore and I don’t know what to do and I shouldn’t have the beg for his attention. What should I do?

New SAHM having issues relating

I’m having the best time the 1st year of motherhood and I cannot relate to 95% of other moms to the point it’s making it hard for me to make new mom friends. I used to work 60-80 hours in corporate finance so this is the lowest stress I’ve had in years. I basically spend my days outside exercising with my baby and doing a ton of stuff like farmers markets, swim lessons, playgrounds, street festivals, museums, restaurants, baseball games. We are very clean and organized but we live in an apartment so it only takes me about an hour a day and a 2 hour deep clean every Sunday to keep our home together. I’ve worked hard exercising the last few years to lose about 40lbs so I also feel great physically. Many moms I meet instantly ask me if I’m also “lonely at home” or how I feel about new body and I feel like no matter what I say, it makes me sound like an asshole. I really want to encourage them to come outside with me but they immediately say it’s too hard. I think I just need to work harder to find some moms who are doing the same things I am, but I also feel guilt essentially not wanting to be friends with nice people who are having a hard time adjusting. I want to make some new mom friends because I’m also not relating to old my friends because most of them don’t have kids. Is anyone else having this problem?

I need to vent

I’m happily married and my husband is an amazing dad but he works a lot, leaves as soon as we wake up and gets home after she’s in bed. His days off are Sunday & Monday, I work Monday so he has our daughter while I’m gone. This leaves only Sunday to do family stuff, go to church & have some alone time for myself. That being said, I don’t actually get my alone time but my husband does, he doesn’t understand that I’m needed 24/7 even in my sleep bc I’m exclusively breastfeeding. I need a few hours of autonomy where I can have me time that isn’t at night when my daughter goes to bed. Last night was Pascha so we were up late and my husband wanted to go to 11am vespers, it’s now almost 4pm and I feel guilty for asking him to come home but he gets to do whatever he wants… what about me??? When do I get to do what I want? When do I get to have hobbies?? I love my daughter and love being with her all day but I still want to not be needed for a few hours.