Pregnant and worried my partner may leave/cheat! Is this normal? He has been distant

We have another child and both super exhausted. We haven’t felt connected for some time. When we talk it can be stressful talking about finances, our lack of village which we agree isn’t there but it’s just a rant, our differences in parenting styles, his stressful job which includes a lot of work related gossip and fear mongering. Then the other day he joked about me being a single mum, he doesn’t seem to overly enjoy our life right now, can’t say I do either as some days feel like survival and he can’t wait to have time to himself to doom scroll/read work emails etc.

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Teething!!

Is this normal? I’m a first time mum and panicking! More photos in comments

I need to vent

I’m happily married and my husband is an amazing dad but he works a lot, leaves as soon as we wake up and gets home after she’s in bed. His days off are Sunday & Monday, I work Monday so he has our daughter while I’m gone. This leaves only Sunday to do family stuff, go to church & have some alone time for myself. That being said, I don’t actually get my alone time but my husband does, he doesn’t understand that I’m needed 24/7 even in my sleep bc I’m exclusively breastfeeding. I need a few hours of autonomy where I can have me time that isn’t at night when my daughter goes to bed. Last night was Pascha so we were up late and my husband wanted to go to 11am vespers, it’s now almost 4pm and I feel guilty for asking him to come home but he gets to do whatever he wants… what about me??? When do I get to do what I want? When do I get to have hobbies?? I love my daughter and love being with her all day but I still want to not be needed for a few hours.

Today my kids locked my bedroom door and closed it and I haven’t been able to open it, I held my baby above me to check his mouth and he vomited directly into my face, also my kids dad skipped the call again

I didn’t mention that the kids dad was supposed to call or not but my oldest asked what day it was, I said Sunday and he knows that’s the call day. Shortly after he knew it was Sunday he came behind me and punched me in the back and I asked what was going on if h had any feelings he wanted to talk about or if something was bothering him. He said no. Then he threw something at my head. I’m tryin to provide him with some reassurance and support and special connection. We’re gunna bake banana bread later.

But today’s f-ing hard. Wanna scream into the void.

One and done - “It’s lonely IN TODAY’s SOCIETY”

So this is what my husband said to me this morning.

We have a 6 week old and I was just talking to the baby and saying you’re all I need we’re complete now etc which I did 💯 mean as I don’t want anymore.

My husband then said it’s not 1980 where people actually talked and had conversations in shops or with their neighbours. In today’s society it’s lonely being the only child because it’s hard to make friends and communicate with people today.

I wasn’t expecting that at all. I feel like he took his time to explain this to me and it really made me think - does he have a point?

To be honest we have a neighbour she’s lovely and recently moved here. She has a 6yr old. She works long hours as a nurse and her parents basically bought up her son BUT her mom just passed away and now she feels lost and honestly doesn’t know what to do with him or how to entertain him. Just makes me think..

Avoiding burn out

Hello! I’m a first time mum of a beautiful almost 2-month-old baby boy with no village, not even one helping hand! He is having one of those phases where he constantly wants to be held and cuddled. If he’s left on the crib on his own for a few minutes, he wakes up and cries. I want to hold and cuddle him as well but I have severe back pain from the C section, and I also had a bit of an accidental fall from the stairs on the 8th day after the C section which gave me a very bad ankle injury. I’m trying my best but recently I’ve been feeling completely burnt out. I can’t sleep, cook, eat properly, or even shower. Please tell me I’m not the only one going through this. And please tell me that it gets better. And any word of advice as to how I can deal with this phase is most welcome. I feel like I’m not good enough. I feel like a bad mum. 😔🙏

Leaving baby?!

Has anyone else not really left baby with anyone other than their partner yet?

I have left my little boy with my parents but for like 1/2hrs max.

My partners family keep offering to have him but I just don't feel ready to leave him with them, he is breastfed at the moment but going to try moving him onto a bottle and can be hard to get down for naps/bedtime without the boob.

We are due to go away with them soon and they have offered to have him while me and my partner go out, some of him family haven't really seen him much so would be practically strangers to him.

Feeling the pressure and not sure if I'm just being an anxious first time mum?!