One and done - “It’s lonely IN TODAY’s SOCIETY”

So this is what my husband said to me this morning.

We have a 6 week old and I was just talking to the baby and saying you’re all I need we’re complete now etc which I did 💯 mean as I don’t want anymore.

My husband then said it’s not 1980 where people actually talked and had conversations in shops or with their neighbours. In today’s society it’s lonely being the only child because it’s hard to make friends and communicate with people today.

I wasn’t expecting that at all. I feel like he took his time to explain this to me and it really made me think - does he have a point?

To be honest we have a neighbour she’s lovely and recently moved here. She has a 6yr old. She works long hours as a nurse and her parents basically bought up her son BUT her mom just passed away and now she feels lost and honestly doesn’t know what to do with him or how to entertain him. Just makes me think..

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even adults are using dating apps. People don’t even meet up anymore for a coffee etc. What chance do kids have 😭

the amount of people on this app looking for friends also makes me question when my child becomes a parent. if they don’t have siblings they won’t have any support as it’s so hard to make friends as a parent

I wouldn’t think about it too much and let it sway your decision. Siblings don’t necessarily get along as adults so I don’t think it’s a sole reason to have a second child.
Saying that my brother (3 years younger) is probably one of my best friends and we talk most days.

Ur only 6 weeks pp in talking abt another kid 😅 yikes. I echo wha @sadie said in her comment. And It’s actually supposed to be easier in this day and age to make friends that it it was in back then due to all these resources we have nowadays. Please don’t let pressure sway ur decision on having kids. No one will have to deal with living ur life bt u

Never have a child based on someone’s opinions or feelings it 100% is your choice.

I think in school there's a lot of shit that goes down but I can't remember many children that had absolutely zero friends. I was moved every 3-5 years because of my dad's work and hated leaving friends behind but I'd always make new ones and the ones that counted have lasted the years. I had a sister. Hated her. I grew up eventually and realised it wasn't her fault that her arrival pushed me to the sidelines and we've patched it up but it's irrecoverably damaged my relationship with my parents. We talk to the neighbours. I'd rather not 😂😂 but it would be rude not to and they are nice I suppose lol. I've made friends at mum groups and they're great, I've met some on here but they've petered out. Motherhood is a big change, it can be isolating, but I think many of us find our tribe in the end. So yeah I'm not birthing an human that I don't want on the off chance that my daughter turns out to be bad at making friends

I can only speak from my experience as an only child; I grew up lonely and always wished for a sibling. It was always important to me as someone who grew up alone to give my children siblings and thankfully I’ve finally done that for my oldest

in our community

Would you find that weird?

So I was telling my older sister that my friend is talking to my husbands brother and my sister was like “oh yeah they both look alike and they’re both good looking ”.

Meaning my husband and his brother are both attractive. Why did she need to mention my husband?

Teething!!

Is this normal? I’m a first time mum and panicking! More photos in comments

Do you actually work hard for what you have or does your job just pay you more money?

On the topic of families becoming unable to afford groceries, someone said that they don't care about anyone struggling or hungry because they simply worked hard for the food they have.

Unless that person has a job in agriculture or food production then they didn't actually work hard for their groceries. They worked hard for a paycheck and used it to buy food. Other workers are the ones who created that food and provided it to the grocery stores for our convenience and accessibility.

Imagine if those workers just decided they didn't care about us anymore? You can't eat money.

New SAHM having issues relating

I’m having the best time the 1st year of motherhood and I cannot relate to 95% of other moms to the point it’s making it hard for me to make new mom friends. I used to work 60-80 hours in corporate finance so this is the lowest stress I’ve had in years. I basically spend my days outside exercising with my baby and doing a ton of stuff like farmers markets, swim lessons, playgrounds, street festivals, museums, restaurants, baseball games. We are very clean and organized but we live in an apartment so it only takes me about an hour a day and a 2 hour deep clean every Sunday to keep our home together. I’ve worked hard exercising the last few years to lose about 40lbs so I also feel great physically. Many moms I meet instantly ask me if I’m also “lonely at home” or how I feel about new body and I feel like no matter what I say, it makes me sound like an asshole. I really want to encourage them to come outside with me but they immediately say it’s too hard. I think I just need to work harder to find some moms who are doing the same things I am, but I also feel guilt essentially not wanting to be friends with nice people who are having a hard time adjusting. I want to make some new mom friends because I’m also not relating to old my friends because most of them don’t have kids. Is anyone else having this problem?

Hey I just need help with what I'm going to do with my boyfriend

he’s not showing me attention anymore. He said he’s busy. He’s just not putting an effort anymore and I don’t know what to do and I shouldn’t have the beg for his attention. What should I do?

can i use these for my 6 month olds purée?

they are sainsbury’s garden peas in water. is the sugar content okay?