Leaving baby?!

Has anyone else not really left baby with anyone other than their partner yet?

I have left my little boy with my parents but for like 1/2hrs max.

My partners family keep offering to have him but I just don't feel ready to leave him with them, he is breastfed at the moment but going to try moving him onto a bottle and can be hard to get down for naps/bedtime without the boob.

We are due to go away with them soon and they have offered to have him while me and my partner go out, some of him family haven't really seen him much so would be practically strangers to him.

Feeling the pressure and not sure if I'm just being an anxious first time mum?!

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Its up to you really and how comfortable you feel. My lo is eff and she has been at both grandparents houses for a good few hours whilst we went to a show/shopping/gig. I wouldnt leave her overnight yet but for a few hours she had a great time

I went away for 5 days for my 40th my mum stayed at our house with our baby..my mum and my big sister are the only people I'd leave her with..shes my 3rd so I feel more comfortable than I did with my 1st..but if you trust the person sometimes you just need to go for it to calm your anxiety about it..Just try 1-2 hours and see how it feels

Only left her with my partner and don't intend leaving her with anyone else at the moment so its not just you 🥲 and that's ok to feel like that 🤗

It’s absolutely what you feel comfortable with, this is my second and she’s stayed overnight at both grandparents multiple times now. Both of mine did from quite young, probably around 12 weeks however my kids are really close with grandparents and i know my sister in law now wishes she’d done the same because their son hates staying away from them whilst mine have just grown up with it x

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