Leaving baby?!

Has anyone else not really left baby with anyone other than their partner yet?

I have left my little boy with my parents but for like 1/2hrs max.

My partners family keep offering to have him but I just don't feel ready to leave him with them, he is breastfed at the moment but going to try moving him onto a bottle and can be hard to get down for naps/bedtime without the boob.

We are due to go away with them soon and they have offered to have him while me and my partner go out, some of him family haven't really seen him much so would be practically strangers to him.

Feeling the pressure and not sure if I'm just being an anxious first time mum?!

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Its up to you really and how comfortable you feel. My lo is eff and she has been at both grandparents houses for a good few hours whilst we went to a show/shopping/gig. I wouldnt leave her overnight yet but for a few hours she had a great time

Only left her with my partner and don't intend leaving her with anyone else at the moment so its not just you 🥲 and that's ok to feel like that 🤗

It’s absolutely what you feel comfortable with, this is my second and she’s stayed overnight at both grandparents multiple times now. Both of mine did from quite young, probably around 12 weeks however my kids are really close with grandparents and i know my sister in law now wishes she’d done the same because their son hates staying away from them whilst mine have just grown up with it x

It’s down to you and what you’re ready for, also depends how capable your parents are to look after a small baby.
We only left our eldest with his parents once he was 1.5-2 years old, left him with his sister when he was about 1 for the first time for a few hours. We’d usually have people coming to our house, we don’t want them being taken around to other people’s houses if it can be avoided. First time we both left him overnight was when he was almost 3 and that was to have his baby brother.
Haven’t left the baby with anyone other than my other half yet either x

We are in the same position
Breastfed and a nightmare at night! I’m getting to a point where I feel like I’m going to have to try soon for an hour or to as grandparents will be having him regular when I go back to work in 5 months!
We are at a wedding next month and my in laws are having him for the day nearby so he can visit for the boob 😂

Yes we left for a a night when she was 4 weeks then do a week when she was 4 months, and leaving her again in a few weeks for 10 days. Both times with my parent, she sees them all the time and loves them and is really used to them. But it’s completely what makes you comfortable, at this age I wouldn’t leave the bag with anyone they don’t know or aren’t comfortable with

Not left my baby with anyone other then my partner either, dont plan to just yet. Didnt leave my first either until he was over 1.

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I also don’t really see how he gets much of a say in it (outside of just a general opinion) as it doesn’t affect him at all whether she is home with me or at nursery as I’ll be doing it all anyway? And he will be saving money if she doesn’t go…

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