My husband hit me and is acting like everything is fine ???

For context I have a 4 month old , just started my period yesterday so have been a bit of an emotional wreck.
I’d been having a down morning anyway and felt like one of those days where I didn’t feel like being a mum today (yes I feel guilty for saying that)
My husband was in bed and I was in the other room, little one was crying and wouldn’t settle so I was rocking him, husband comes in and took baby off me, I said he needs a nap he’s tired, to which my husband said “you always say he needs a nap” and I raised my voice slightly and said stop it!!! I pushed him away and he slapped me round the head saying YOU stop it!
I ignored him and let him take baby and left the house , long story short he went to work and came back acting as if everything was completely fine ?? It’s definitely not and I feel like I want to leave him but just scared to be a single mum and even though he upsets me most the time i see him as an extra person in the house so I can occasionally have a break
Because of the person he is I feel like it’s fine he didn’t mean it he was just angry, but he always said he would never hit me and he did for the first time today… not sure what to feel , don’t feel like i should let this slide.

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I left an abusive relationship and I didn’t leave for so long because I was terrified to do it alone but it just got so much easier!! Please be safe and careful there is support out there! Hope you’re okay :/ x

And I’ll straight rock his shit bck we finna get in a dispute tonight 😂 im a lil crazy n i finna prove 😭im finna beat yo ass n everything u own bleached , tore , gone no longer exist. 🙃then im leaving

If he’s willing to hit you he could be willing to hit your child one day

I would have a conversation with him about it. If you don’t and he doesn’t see why his behavior was wrong, he will keep doing it and it will continue to escalate. I know being a single mom doesn’t sound fun, but by the sound of your post, it doesn’t sound like your marriage is fun either. Also, if you’re a single mom you will get a break when the LO is at dad’s.

Well from what you’re saying it doesn’t sound like he is abusive. Maybe you just pushed him over his limit (not saying that’s an ok reason to hit you tho) dad also go through a lot as well when a baby comes. Maybe not the SAME thing we go through but definitely go through some of thier own, their own postpartum in a way

Report it to the police and put it on record. Youll thank yourself in the future for reporting it. Trust me girl

Did he hit you like a bop on the head that didn’t hurt? Like a brother teasing his sister? Or like a slap? and/or did it hurt. I kinda understand since you said you pushed him so a little bop could possibly slide but if I ever got hit I wouldn’t be able to stay. Like the relationship would be tainted at that point!

I would say…apologise first and see if he will too! You were both angry. We all make mistakes and from what you wrote doesn’t sound like he is abusive. Apologies hugs kisses and move forward…

Don’t forget to hug your LO kiss and say sorry too.

Is this the first time he’s ever hit you? I hope you can find the strength to confront him, it’s not ok that he raised a hand to you. It’s not your fault. You are not in control of his hands.

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