My husband hit me and is acting like everything is fine ???

For context I have a 4 month old , just started my period yesterday so have been a bit of an emotional wreck.
I’d been having a down morning anyway and felt like one of those days where I didn’t feel like being a mum today (yes I feel guilty for saying that)
My husband was in bed and I was in the other room, little one was crying and wouldn’t settle so I was rocking him, husband comes in and took baby off me, I said he needs a nap he’s tired, to which my husband said “you always say he needs a nap” and I raised my voice slightly and said stop it!!! I pushed him away and he slapped me round the head saying YOU stop it!
I ignored him and let him take baby and left the house , long story short he went to work and came back acting as if everything was completely fine ?? It’s definitely not and I feel like I want to leave him but just scared to be a single mum and even though he upsets me most the time i see him as an extra person in the house so I can occasionally have a break
Because of the person he is I feel like it’s fine he didn’t mean it he was just angry, but he always said he would never hit me and he did for the first time today… not sure what to feel , don’t feel like i should let this slide.

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I’m not telling you to leave because I know mistakes can be made but I think if it’s not something he’s willing to apologize for than it’s an issue. I wouldn’t stay personally just because we only have two rules in our marriage don’t cheat and don’t hit. We can work through everything else.
Have yall spoken about it? I also understand having a new baby around is STRESSFUL all the way around!

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I left an abusive relationship and I didn’t leave for so long because I was terrified to do it alone but it just got so much easier!! Please be safe and careful there is support out there! Hope you’re okay :/ x

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And I’ll straight rock his shit bck we finna get in a dispute tonight 😂 im a lil crazy n i finna prove 😭im finna beat yo ass n everything u own bleached , tore , gone no longer exist. 🙃then im leaving

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Definitely have a talk with him about it and how you won’t tolerate that behavior moving forward.

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If he’s willing to hit you he could be willing to hit your child one day

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