Traumatic births experience

This is so random and late lol. But, idk if anyone else is like this. With my first baby I had a far more complicated birth, PPH, sepsis, AKI etc etc. But idk the birth didn’t really bother me at all after. Idk if it’s because I had a epidural that worked so well. So that took a bit of the negative memory away.

With my second my girl, I got induced with the pessary. I didn’t have and expectations I just wanted a epidural because it hurts loool. Anywyas with her I went from 4cm to birth of the placenta in 1 hour, no time for pain medicine. I had second degree tears and felt all the stitches. But had no complications at all.

But I found my second birth far more traumatic, because wtf was that. That hurt so bad, have flashbacks ahahahahah.

Anyone else found a unmedicated birth more traumatic? Or am I just weird 🤣

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I had my baby completely natural if not gas and air which I stopped using when I started pushing as the midwife told me to try use it less and something in my head just told me F it let’s completely stop 😂 anyway, ended up with PPH, second degree tears, hematoma, I was so high as 8 people rushed in and started poking me with all sorts… honestly? I’d do it over and over again. I was so out of it I didn’t realise how bad it was. However my husband, who had never held a baby before our girl, was shoved in a corner holding her while he watched me bleed out and is forever traumatised 😂😂😂 on the flip side, I made many funny comments, no idea what pain killer they gave me but at some point while being stitched up, I asked the other midwife why she was shoving my placenta in her pocket (she was not. No idea why I said that) 🥲😂

I had an unmediated birth and just used gas and air and didn’t find it too bad

What I did find terrible was the stitching
I was in labour for 6 hours without anything and was fine (6am-12pm when she was born) they stitched the second degree tears up again with just gas and air and were done around 3:30

Half the length of my labour!

That was traumatic
I can’t really think about that part of the experience without crying and getting upset which is a shame as the rest of the birth was really good (except she did get stuck shoulder dystocia but it was resolved very quickly and I’m happy with that!)

I don’t know why they don’t give you anything stronger for the stitching

The numbing the was ok
But it wasn’t adequate for that length of time!

Both my births were unmedicated. The first was precipitous like yours and the second was slower. Definitely LOVED the slower birth and found the precipitous traumatic like WTFH was that? The second was pure bliss

Exactly. I thought i was dying.

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