Skin yo skin challenges

My baby is 5 weeks old and we have hardly done any skin to skin. We did it at birth, and a few times in the first week. He has problems latching, so I'm feeding him with nipple shields after advice from a lactation consultant. After the first week we have hardly done any skin to skin. If I try, he tries to latch (even if he's not hungry) but he's unsuccessful so he gets super upset. Also, he always gets upset when I undress and dress him, so I end up not doing skin to skin for both reasons. However I now regret that I've lost so much time without doing it. Do you think I can start now? And if so, have you got any tips to overcome those challenges?

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Notning will fucking shut her up!!!

2 nights in a row my daughter isn't even crying it's just noise and it's constant! NOTHING fucking works anymore! I had 2 hours sleep last night and at the moment ive had around 3 hours I feel like I'm in the newborn trenches all over again and I honestly just want to kill my self because I can't be fucking arsed for this shit anymore!

My son was a dream from 2 months old. My daughter is just a completely different child! I can't I just can't do it.

It's fine for her Dad to fuck off downstairs to the couch while I'm just in bed trying to do anything I can to settle her which nothing works!! I don't wanna put her in bed with me because I don't want to get her into the habit of co sleeping, a bottle used to settle her and now it doesn't. Shushing doesn't work, patting her doesn't work.

She's 19 months

I want to die!!!!!!!

Should I reach out to my mom?

I'm a 30yo ftm with a 6 month old little boy. I'm loving motherhood it's by far the best thing I've done in life.

That being said there is this one piece I keep coming back to that just stings. My own mother is hardly talking to me. She lives 10min uo the road and has only met him about 3 or 4 times all because I initiated contact.

I have cptsd and childhood trauma from my mother. Now I have gone to therapy I don't really hold anger towards her for it anymore I believe at this point my trauma is mine to heal I don't need her to solve it for me. Without going into detail she suffers from severe depression and put a lot of it on me growing up. So understandably have a hot and cold relationship.

We were in a good spot until about 3/4 of the way through my pregnancy where she totally flipped the script and started arguing with me about super old stuff that in my opinion just didn't need dug up (especially while like 7months pregnant) anyway this continued postpartum and it just sings extra ya know. Like she waited until I was again at a vulnerable point in life to cause arguments and take advantage of my vulnerability.

I'm just sad, I miss the way she is when she's acting normal, but I've tried to reach out and every time it's an argument.

What should I do?

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So I’m well aware that it’s kinda impossible to have a routine with newborns but I’m curious if anyone has found a routine which is working for them and supporting with longer sleep stretches at night?

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My son is 18 months old and still breastfeeds. My MIL doesn't speak very much English but every time I bf, she will laugh and make comments about him being "too big" and tell him he needs to stop 🙄
I plan to stop breastfeeding by the time he is 2 but even if he was 3 or something, I really don't think its any of her business.

Help!

My 7-week-old baby girl still refuses to sleep in her next-to-me bed 😢 She’ll only contact nap all night. During the day, she’s fine and can nap in her bed for about 30 minutes, but at night, the moment we put her down, she wakes up fussy and crying.

She does sleep through the night on us, which is great, but we’re still taking shifts and staying awake 😭 Just hoping she’ll eventually start accepting her bed at some point.

hair loss in pregnancy

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